Big Kids

Older children may be gaining more independence, strength and maturity every day, but they still need the love and support of their parents.

Ask questions and get advice on building a strong relationship with your growing child and helping them navigate the elementary, middle and high school years.

Mary posted in Pre-Teens Nov 27

Does anyone know when would be the right time to buy a training bra?

  • Sara
    Dec 01

    Whenever she needs it! Girls develop at different rates. If you’re asking the question chances are you’re thinking there might be a need. Have a conversation with your daughter and maybe buy a few styles and options to see what her comfort level is.

  • Mary
    Dec 01

    When I told her she might need one she got scared and started to cry. I told her to wait a few months.

Anonymous posted in Child's Health Nov 16

Bed wetting with 7 year old

My daughter has recently turned 7 and has been up and down with bed wetting issues for several years. She’s currently in a pattern where she’s wetting the bed most nights to some extent. She’s had a history for her entire life with constipation and we’ve gone through treatments over the past few years and her doctor has stated that this can contribute to bed wetting. I’ve read the same. We make... More

  • Diane
    Yesterday

    I think since constipation effects the bedwetting, that you should see a gastroenterologist first to determine how to keep the constipation under control on a daily basis and address ways to be "vigilent" consistently. From what you wrote, if she is not constipated, the bedwetting is less. Possibly, if you can keep her from being constipated for a longer period of time, her system and... More

Gassyness

Anyone else have their little ones getting bad bellyaches from too much gas? My 4 yo little one has been having a lot of belly aches from gas to the point that she comes crying to me, and it’s just like an infant where the gas is trapped in her belly, (several of my little ones were very gassy infants). Usually I will lay with her and rub her belly until she “Toots” some, but does anyone else ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Oct 23

With the upcoming holidays & school breaks, how are parents handling childcare coverage?

I'd like to keep my daughter active (not just hanging around the house with a sitter) - there's got to be a better way than a Google search for what's available when school's out? Ideas? Thanks!

Nick posted in Teenagers Oct 10

How can I get my teenagers to help clean up?

  • Lexi
    Oct 12

    I was a teenager not long ago and growing up I would get my phone taken for not cleaning up.

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Oct 03

Best age for 1st Sleepover

What age did your child attend/host 1st sleepover? Daughter is turning 8 years old and she would really like one. I'm wracking my brain and nerves trying to plan/prepare/make definitive decision on yes or no. I don't feel our house is big enough. Her room is upstairs. Mine is downstairs...do I sleep upstairs???? Go up and down15 times checking on girls? Does my hubby and 2 year old st... More

  • Cathy
    Oct 05

    Yes. I would rather have the sleepover at my own house then send my kid to someone else’s. There’s so many things to worry about and you never know if people have guns, drugs, etc.

  • Serrina F.
    Oct 09

    I have a 9 year old son and he has had several sleepovers and gone to a couple. We haven't had more than 3 boys at a time though but they were fine in his room, if we past 3 I would make them set up in the livingroom. All they did was snack, play video games and be on the laptop. I had to force them to watch a movie and eat dinner. They were up pretty late playing them dang video games but... More

Anonymous posted in Big Kids Oct 02

Money for conference night dinner

Hello ladies, i have a question. My 1st grader came home today saying her teacher is asking kids to bring money to school for her conference day dinner. I am new to the USA, and that sounds a little bit weird to me, please explain if this is a normal thing? And how much should we give? Thank you so much for answering.

  • Stevie
    Oct 03

    I feel like that is weird. I’ve been asked to donate for things that include my daughter. Never just a teachers dinner!

  • Jennifer
    Oct 10

    I have never heard of such thing as teacher dinner????

Is it a good idea to let my kids play outdoors just before bedtime?

I am wondering if it will help them get tired out to sleep better or if it is going to make it harder to calm down to go to sleep?

  • Anne
    Oct 14

    Yes! This is actually really common in other countries. Families often take a “constitutional” walk around the block/neighborhood after dinner but before bed. It helps aid digestion, calm anxiety and get excess energy out of your system. I’d give it a try!

liliya posted in Behavior Sep 25

Daughter having issues focusing.

Hi, my daughter just started kindergarten a month ago and turned 5 this last Monday the 23. She talks and mostly goes off topic, which makes her loose her focus and takes her away from whatever she’s doing. Sometimes even when she is not talking she doesn’t focus as well for example, everyday when she gets to school, her principal would be by the door saying hi to all kindergarteners, by giving... More

  • Mike Stemle
    Sep 29

    I don’t think that this is the right place for attention. It sounds like you may want a pediatric psychiatrist to help here. This could be ASD, it could be ADD, it could be social or general anxiety, and it could just be a personality quirk. You really need a good healthcare provider for this.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Sep 08

Tips on getting my almost 7 yr old to listen!

My daughter will be 7 towards the end of the year! She is such a intelligent little human! She is so well behaved at school, with grandparents, wherever she may be! But she doesn’t listen at home! Am I alone here? Lol I have recently introduced a chore chart that she gets to check off daily as she goes! Any other helpful tips or advice for getting her to listen to what she is told without me ha... More

  • Jess
    Sep 10

    My son is the same age and recently just started doing the same. I’ve noticed that punishment or repeating myself doesn’t work, but if I go up to him and take his hand or put my hand on his shoulder and ask him to listen, and then talk to him, he will respond and usually listen. This seems to be the age they tune us out!

  • Jenni
    Sep 19

    What I’ve found works with my super talkative yet selective listening daughter is using simple incentives and rewards for good listening (Gets to read extra story, iPad time, bigger incentive for longer time of good behavior like special outing to her place of choice). If she doesn’t listen, incentives are withheld. It seems to work as reward system for us.

Anonymous posted in Big Kids Sep 07

Kid's teacher makes mistake correcting homework

How do I deal with my kid's 1st grade teacher who corrected her math homework and made several mistakes. I noticed that when I checked. When my kid took the homework to school again so the teacher could explain why she marked it wrong, the teacher again made several mistakes explaining and again gave wrong answers. Should I just leave it or send my kid to school again with the same homework? 🤔

  • E
    Sep 14

    Talk to the teacher. Most schools are using curriculums with explanations right in the teaching guide. Maybe she was just on the wrong page while grading. Not sure about the verbal reteach, but it would be best for everyone to grow from mistakes.

  • Courtney
    Sep 24

    Lol I swear I mean this with all the love and support as a fellow parent: Here is my completely uncensored blunt response: HECCCCCKKKKK NO! Absolutely DO NOT EVER be afraid to fight for your child’s education!!! The early years are LITERALLY are the building blocks to ALL things our children need to ensure their future. The groundwork is being laid for them. I cannot tell you how damn infuriati... More

Jess posted in Education Sep 05

At Home Kindergarten Programs

My daughter is 4 years old and has been in a day care program for the past two years. She loves to learn and has the tendency to pick things up quickly. I do not want to send her to public school. I was raised in the public school system (my mom is a teacher) and I want to work with a system that has more control over the curriculum and the teachers are able to adjust their teaching to the chil... More

  • Sara
    Sep 12

    Have you considered private school? Also there may be public school options in your area that take a more tailored approach, like charter schools.

  • Jess
    Oct 08

    I can't afford the luxury of private schools in this area. And they are mostly religious based which is not something I agree with. That's why I'm looking for the other options when you can't afford private schools but can't agree with the public education system. It's a never winning battle.

Anays posted in Education Aug 28

4th grade math help

Any apps that can help 4th graders better their math skills?

Anays posted in Education Aug 23

4th grade math help!!

My son has recently started 4th grade and is getting daily hw. Math, writing, reading, and spelling. I am noticing he is struggling with math. Not sure if its cus he has not been practicing over summer or if he really is struggling. Any tips on how to help him. Tutor? Abc mouse? Math sheets?

  • Erica
    Aug 26

    Math is difficult in helping my family with their homework I’ve noticed it could be how he’s taught he’s not understanding it that way maybe he just needs the problems explained differently

  • Shekhar
    Aug 29

    This site is very good, I have been using for my kids for last 2 years https://www.ixl.com/

How to wake up a child in the early morning for school?

My son is in pre-k and it’s so hard to wake him up even when he goes to sleep relatively early.

  • Momof1
    Aug 22

    With my son we put him to bed early enough so that he wakes up on his own without us waking him up. We just kept putting him to bed 15 mins earlier until he woke up on his own at the time we want. Now I don’t wake him up. He wakes me up in the morning for daycare.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 22

    Agreed with bed earlier then!

7yo Water bottle recommendations plz!

My daughter is going to be in 2nd grade and we and I both share in the terrible stomach issues so we stoped drinking dairy milk (which has helped a lot) and a bunch of other stuff. Point is I normally get her a water bottle for school but last year she went threw them so quick and would destroy them 🤦🏽‍♀️ i normally get them from Walmart or target but I end up spending a bunch of money since sh... More

  • Jackie
    Aug 13

    I have 2 Mira stainless steel vacuum sealed insulated bottles. They are great at keeping water cold or warm all day! Yetis are nice but super expensive and this is a great alternative. They offer many different sizes and lid types. Go onto amazon and just search Mira water bottle.

  • Jennifer
    Aug 15

    I got the Swell water bottle and the water stays cold and the bottle takes some good beating and lasts for the whole school year.

My 5 y/o keeps asking me for play dates with his classmates.

I’ve never approached parents before on this topic. I run anxiety thinking I’m bothering parents if I ever suggest this. The problem with this thought process is that I’ve become socially awkward. To overcome this, what are some opening lines you have used to suggest a play date? To a parent you haven’t really talked to but your kids play with their kids at school and are bffs. Thanks! Hugs!

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 09

    I start by saying something like, “my daughter was asking if they could get together with your child sometime. If you’re willing, do you want to trade numbers? That way, if we’re at the park or something sometime we can try to coordinate a play date.” But I have to say, I rarely actually chat it up with the parents. I’m pretty hands on, and not here to make friends with other parents, but i... More

  • Jennifer
    Aug 09

    You know, it really comes down to one of the moms making the initiative. My daughter has been to her daycare since 2yr old. But during May before she turned 5yr old, the school decided to move their location. Usually when I pick up my kids, I see the other parents and just briefly say hi to them but I know all my daughter's friends, as I'm the type of mom that likes to get to know th... More

Anonymous posted in Grade Schoolers Aug 07

How can I reassure my anxious child that she is safe?

My very sensitive 7 year old saw some of the recent news coverage of the mass shootings while watching TV with my husband. She ran out of the room crying and later told me about it when I got back from swimming with her little sister. The next day at summer camp, some kids were playing cops and bad guys and that evening she ended up sobbing uncontrollably and unable to sleep. She told me she is... More

  • Momof2
    Aug 12

    I’m so sad this is the world we are raising our kids in! I think it’s most important to validate her feelings of fear around it. It is super scary as an adult (and even more so as a child I’m sure) to think about somebody coming into school (or any place really) and shooting people. I might avoid telling her things like you live in a safe neighborhood. I’m sure most of the people who sent thei... More

  • Rhiannon
    Aug 21

    Hi! I came across another book post and thought of y'all. It's about anxiety in general. As a worrier from a young age, I understand how crippling anxiety can be. As an adult, therapy and mindfulness have helped me. At her age, I hope something like this book about worrying could provide some of that helpful framework. https://happilyeverelephants.com/home/popular-kids-books/I'm-wor... More

Hello! Question about my 6 Yr old - Cramps

Hi! So everytime we go on a walk my son immediately complains about cramps. He loves walking and begs to go. Regardless of the amount of activity or frequency of our walks the complaint is always the same. I ask questions to determine if it is cramps or something else and it seems to be regular cramps. Any ideas?

  • Anonymous
    Jul 28

    I bet he’s dehydrated. If not, I’d talk to his doctor

Daughter is rough with our senior kitty

My 9-year old daughter who has always been an animal lover is now suddenly being very rough with our 13-year old cat, Kiki. This has started in the last 6 weeks - basically, the start of summer break. My husband works from home, but since he is working, he probably isn't giving her as much attention as she would like. I think she's bored, but since I'm at work M-F for about 10 h... More

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