Modern Families

The one thing that defines a parent is their love for a child, whether it be their biological child, a grandchild, or an adopted or fostered child.

This is a judgement-free zone for parents to come together, ask questions, and share resources about the unique challenges and joys of nontraditional parenting and family life.

Anonymous posted in Faith & Religion 3h ago

My son's grandmother imposing her religion on him

How the hell do you deal with religious fanatics in the family who force and coerce your child to become a member of their religion? My mother has found her dedication to the Christian faith in her later years. "You do you" is my stance, so hooray for her, but for my baby I'm letting him choose what religion, if any, he'll follow. That means I am not having him baptized in an... More

  • Anonymous
    1h ago

    How old is your son? Is he at the age where he can actually choose to believe something and comprehend that? I don’t see the harm if he is too young. She technically isn’t coercing your son to choose her religion as he isn’t able to make a conscious decision yet. I can understand that this already isn’t a good step in respecting your wishes and it makes you lose trust in her. Talk to her and ... More

  • Michaeljonaxl
    1h ago

    I have had a discussion and an ongoing problem with this very topic. I am an atheist by definition and want my twin boys to choose their own path as well. I feel it hurts a child’s chances of honestly choosing their own path if they are indoctrinated in anyway to a certain faith based ideology. That being said having your child baptized at an early age they don’t truly know what’s going on. Sin... More

Anonymous posted in Mental Health Feb 13

I've had enough

I've been waiting for my boyfriend to propose...he said when I lost weight when we move into a bigger home and when he gets a better job...each time we achieve he comes up with another excuse...I poured my heart out countless times and I put so much love and attention into my family. Today I really laid it all on the table. I'm disgusted with myself for giving my all before we were even... More

  • T
    Feb 14

    Weight should not of been a requirement. Men KNOW who they want to marry... know your worth & NEVER SETTLE. A few months of instability could bring a lifetime of happiness. You never know how strong you are until it’s your only option.

  • Karla
    Thursday

    Those sound like excuses and it also sound like you know wha t to do next. Someone once said to me " fear of the unknown " and I keep that in mind every single time I'm feeling that certain way. Is there any family maybe that can help while you get back on your feet?

I'm a recently separated single mom

I'm just hoping to find other people I can chat with to help me from going insane! My boyfriend and father of my son just left yesterday and it is so hard especially being a stay at home mom. Any advice or anything would really be helpful

  • Caitlin
    Thursday

    Hi there- no advice, I just wanted to say that’s got to be really hard and I hope you’re able to give yourself extra love and self-care right now. Sending internet stranger bear hugs your way.

  • Shaley
    Thursday

    Aww thank you! That really does help!

Help!!!

My 7 year old stepdaughter has been giving us attitude at home and is now acting up at school, not listening to her teachers and flat out telling them no. We talked to her about it but it's not helping! Any advice?

  • Elizabeth
    Feb 10

    I feel like even the good relationship my step kids have with their mom and the good relationship we have with her doesn’t take away from them having behavioral issues like that. I tend to teach them that it’s safest to act that way at home with us and the people that love them rather than in public with strangers. I always get back to the core of it by reminding them that we love them and want... More

  • Scarlett
    Feb 10

    I walked her to class and talked to the teacher. She has been not doing her work and standing in her chair during class which made the other kids laugh which in turn made her want to do it more. I had her apologize to the teacher and we had a much better end of the week!

Working Mothers

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kateashford/2015/06/30/working-mother/

  • Jade
    Feb 05

    Wow, Anne! What an amazing Mom! 🙌🏼

  • Anonymous
    Feb 08

    I’m very proud of my single working mom, and always glad she had more to occupy her than my settling down and having babies- most of my friends’ moms seemed to pressure their kids, and I felt it was because they were bored housewives- and I decided to put my career on the side, and take up odd freelance work, because I still felt the deep yearning to simply be with my mother. She was always so ... More

Just a thought

I’m sitting here on our bed while my husband is putting out hysterically crying baby. He’s so patient, she keeps getting up and crying and he just softly tells her it’s okay that he’s there and wow. Extremely thankful for him ❤️💛

  • Elle
    Jan 24

    My husband is the same way. Its good to be thankful for each other, esp when one partner can step in to help other the other!

Anonymous posted in Family Life Jan 22

Raising a baby without family near

Husband and I live in Kansas, my family lives in Canada and his in California. It’s way more affordable to buy a house here so we want to raise a family here so we can provide more. Anyway, calling out all moms and dads raising babies without family near. Just want to hear your experiences with working, nannies, and not having that support nearby. Cause a strain on your relationship? Should... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 25

    Thank you so much to everyone who’s responded! It’s given us a lot of insight. I think we’re leaning more towards moving to California, in the sun & closer to in laws & future baby’s cousins. We feel family is super important and we definitely would be lonely in difficult times, and are not sure how we feel about having a babysitter/nanny yet D: We just need to adjust to a smaller budg... More

  • Mandy
    Jan 25

    It is not a strain on our marriage, however we can’t afford a nanny (and I don’t trust people with my child). It is hard, I miss alone time with my husband. But we have a solid family unit, and our son is awesome when we go out places. I guess in my experience if your relationship is strong you can make anything work. Sure it’s hard and I would love to be able to leave our son with a grandparen... More

Anonymous posted in Single Parents Jan 21

Double bedtime for single parent

My husband and I are newly separated. I’m struggling with putting both toddlers to bed (1.1 and 2.4 years). I usually do one whilst the other plays with dad, and then come for the second. We didn’t sleep train our second, so it can take me 10- 25 minutes to put him down. Our first was the good sleeper, but is fussing and delaying for up to an hour after bedtime. I’m struggling. Tears and runn... More

  • Be
    Jan 24

    I put my baby down when feeding my toddler. Then I can spend time getting him down. Then once he asleep I get the older one ready for bed then if needed I can throw him into his bed and get to the baby. It's all balance and your doing great! Trial and error

  • Brenda
    Jan 31

    I am going through a similar situation and now I’m living alone with my three children and it is very hard getting them all to bed at the same time so that I can rest, basically I put them all in at the same time in the same room until they fall asleep it took me a while to get them to do this but after tucking them in over and over in a week it just became a habit for my 2.6 yr old my 9mo old ... More

What is your go to place for parenting advice or answers to questions?

Do you ask your mom, MIL, facebook mommy groups, Winnie, google, a specified book, etc? Picture for attention!

  • Michaela
    Jan 21

    My mother in law... and my mom depending on what it is (she can get very naggy, so I filter for her)

  • Morgan
    Jan 24

    Winnie

Co parenting with another parent who’s stubborn?

I’ve been having trouble trying to figure out a good way to share custody with my sons father, he’s very rude and stubborn as heck. Any time we talk it turns into an argument. How can I approach this differently, or to come to an agreement?

  • Destinee
    Jan 18

    It might be a good ideas to consider a mediator. Then you have a professional putting all expectations in writing and it’s clear to all parties. and if anyone goes against it you can go to court.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Jan 16

kindergarten violence?

I need some advice from fellow parents. My daughter is in kindergarten. She got punched by another classmate in the face and end up with a very bloody nose. According to the teachers, there was quite a lot of blood spilled on her clothes and floor. We met with the principal but there doesn’t seem to be any clear preventive measures put in place to avoid future incidents. I was told there were... More

  • Yo
    Jan 21

    I would try talking to the principal to have him/her talk to the other child parents. If no progress is made and you still dont feel comfortable, I would just look for another school. When my son was smaller he used to come home with very big words for gis little mouth that we did not use at home. When I found out the source was a girl in the class I addressed the matter with the principal and... More

  • Morgan
    Jan 24

    I would put your daughter in a self defense class and i would file a complaint against the school and the teacher and the principal and i would press charges

Anonymous posted in Behavior Jan 15

3 year old regressing

My 3 year old step-daughter lives with me and her father and has been for 2.5 years now. Her mother has been in and out of her life off and on but she now sees her every other weekend and since this started consistently about 5 months ago my step-daughter has regressed in potty training, talking, and maturity. She has a lot of anxiety and anger since our time sharing of every other weekend with... More

Anonymous posted in Blended Families Jan 15

Mother in Law drama. Trying to parent over us?? PLEASE HELP!

WARNING: LONG POST BUT I'M DESPERATE Hey Mommies! (& Daddies) My hubby and I have 3 kiddos, 1 baby boy in common (6mo.) & He has 2 children from a previous marriage 8 yr old boy and 10yr old girl. My stepkids mother would never let the kids go to their Gmas house and they never got alone time with her. Which I honestly think is ridiculous. When I became pregnant I told my MIL that ... More

  • Lily
    Jan 24

    First don't feel like you need to take the kids to see her all the time. Also, don't let her over to your house all the time. Don't let her talk you into letting the baby stay with her, he is yours and she has no right to keep him for the night. Also, we had the same problem with my mother in law and grmadma in law....we would be out shopping and they would just take the baby withou... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 24

    Thank you all so much! I appreciate all the input and advice. I really thought I was just being ridiculous but I’m so happy to hear that other women feel the same way.

Step daughter and her mother... help!

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He has a 9 year old daughter, and I have a 10 year old son and a 7 year old daughter. Her father had custody of her for most of our relationship, she returned back to her mother’s care 4 months ago. We did have a good relationship at first, but over time it has become very difficult. I treat all 3 children the same when it comes to time, attention, disci... More

  • Traci
    Feb 03

    Wow. You’re in a difficult spot. I honestly don’t have any suggestions other then to just keep doing what you already have been doing by continuing to try to communicate with the mother. Also maybe try to have some one on one time with your step daughter and take her somewhere that you know she loves and try to bond with her.

Anonymous posted in Parenting Culture Jan 08

Have you been in this situation? What happened? What did you do?

My son just turned 2, so he doesn’t speak much yet. The other day we were at the aquarium and we had to leave for lunch and nap. Naturally, my son wasn’t ready to leave so I wrestled a screaming toddler into the stroller. Next thing I knew, he was screaming “help me” repeatedly to the family next to us. I calmly got him in the stroller and left. First, I’m super proud that he’s now saying two w... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 11

    So that’s one of the scenarios I ran through my head... police ask me to prove that my son is my son, so I show them pictures on my phone. Then they say that it’s not enough because it could just mean that I kidnapped the child several months prior and started taking pictures then. 😱 I have my photos cleared out and saved elsewhere every couple of months. My son is a mixed kid and more people... More

  • Catherine
    Jan 24

    My middle son once yelled out ”Dont hurt me no more Daddy!!!” to my husband. First off my husband and I were in shock trying to think of one time he had punished him considering my husband was never around much because of his job and secondly we were trying to rationalize why would he say that? Now that my son is 17 we have asked him why he said that then.. He said that he had a way of imagini... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Jan 06

Temper Tantrums

So I have an almost-four yo step-kid who was been generally well-behaved their entire life. They threw fits and pouted every now and then like any other kid, but recently... I don’t know. It’s so different. They throw a huge fit about every 15 minutes on average. They’ve started throwing things, screaming at us, and (our least favorite) just ignoring us. We will literally pick them up and move ... More

  • T
    Jan 06

    Welcome to life with 4 year olds.

  • T
    Jan 06

    Okay. Abuse does happen and it causes major shifts in behavior. And turning 4 also can cause major shifts in behavior and lying starts around now too. They are going through another leap and are experiencing the world in another way. It’s huge. I’m in an neighborhood playgroup organization and nearly all our kids are turning 4 or just turned 4 and most of them are exhibiting this behavior.

Anonymous posted in Divorce & Separation Jan 05

Separating after baby comes

Husband and I are pregnant with baby #2 and have a very volatile relationship. Neither of us are happy and have tried counseling, etc to try to make it work. Baby #2 was a surprise and we had previously agreed to separate before we found out I was pregnant. Long story short, after baby comes we will be splitting and co-parenting. We have decided this on good terms, no anger or hostility just sa... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 07

    I have a friend who did exactly this. It has been much better for their kids to co-parent but not be together. They live really close to each other to make the logistics easy. It will be hard in the beginning but just know you're doing the best thing for yourself and your kids.

  • Sandra
    Feb 01

    Before I got pregnant my babies father and I were having issues, I was going to break up with him,then I found out I was pregnant and tried to make it work for about 3 months before realizing that I did not want to be with him.I knew that for your kids you have to be okay for them to be okay,it will be hard at first because you’re going to need help,and since you will be separated,it’s going to... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Jan 04

Dad is his favorite... and it’s clear why

I’m a SAHM to a 2 year old. For the past month he’s been acting like this: When dad is home, he acts like he’s deathly afraid of me. Prefers dad to change his diaper, hold him or cuddle with him. Dad has to persuade him to let me do stuff for him (change his diaper, bath, etc). When dad isn’t home, it’s normal. Since I’m home with him all day and even when dad is home - I do all the childcar... More

  • Anonymous
    Jan 05

    My 19 month old does this. I am also a SAHM, my husband kind of makes guest appearances in her life; because in the mornings we go to mommy and me classes, and many times my husband gets home past her bed time. When she sees him it’s like a celebrity walked in the room and she totally forgets about me, won’t even let me carry her; (but I will admit this is kind of my fault, when she was younger... More

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jan 06

    I really think it’s a phase. Honestly kids need and respond to routine and limits, and it probably has nothing to do with your differences in parenting. Hang in there. Try to just keep being the parent you want to be for him and let dad figure out his own path. It’s going to be slower because he spends less time with him. You are awesome, Mom!

“The talk”

So, my oldest is turning 15 this year, she is having a quinceañera party which, in Latino culture, signifies her transitioning into a woman. Now, she is not a woman and will never be a woman in my eyes, still my baby girl. But I do understand she is getting older and the fact that she doesn’t live with me, due to a divorce from my first wife, makes things a bit more challenging. I want to have ... More

  • Michelle
    Jan 27

    You may want to have the talk with her, but make sure she wants to have the talk with you first. The best thing you can do for your relationship and her self-esteem is respect her boundaries. I’m sure she’s watching tv shows with mature themes. Find out what she’s watching, then watch them on your own, and start a conversation with her about the characters. You can pass along your wisdom to ... More

  • Elle
    Jan 28

    Want to upvote Michelle's comment about 100 times. Best comment thus far.

Kijuana posted in Adoption Jan 03

Hello I was wondering how some of you found a birth mother who was considering adoption?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 04

    An adoption agency is really the safest option. Everything is in writing, legally enforceable, and you know exactly what you’re getting into. As much as just “doing it yourself” has perks - better relationship with the birth mom, future contact, personal screening - the legal pitfalls are dangerous.

  • Jenny
    Jan 05

    I would agree. The legal pitfalls can be extremely dangerous and costly. The other route you could explore would be adoption consultants such as Adoption Information Services. This will help speed up the process as you will have the opportunity to be shown to birth moms all over the country via several agencies as well as adoption attorneys.

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