Multiple Children

Whether twins or siblings, there's no doubt that parenting more than one child can be as challenging as it is rewarding.

This is the place to ask questions and get advice on raising 2 or more children, including sharing space, sibling conflicts, and welcoming a new baby.

Anonymous posted in Multiple Children Thursday

Second child

I just found out I’m pregnant with our second. Completely freaking out. My son will be 3.5 when the baby comes. What do you wish you knew or someone told you about before your second came along? Thank you!

  • Rebecca
    1h ago

    That you will survive. That the first month it was like having two new children as the first child’s world was rocked big time and she sure showed it with her behavior but now after my second is 4 months old life Is getting back to normal. My kids are 3 years apart. Don’t mean to scare you but we survived.

  • Myrtle
    1h ago

    1.No one told me how much I would miss my first child when the second one came along. I exclusively breast-fed so I was spending much more time with the baby plus i was cosleeping with the baby. 2.If you are nursing the baby figure out a way to nurse her in a carrier makes it easier to keep up with your older one so you don’t have to be stationary during feedings. 3.Also getting a portable brea... More

Birthday Party Ideas

Hi so I have a set of twins turning 4 in January. My son is autistic but my daughter isn’t. This is the first year I want to throw them a party but I don’t want to be so concerned about not overwhelming my son that my daughter doesn’t have fun. Any suggestions?

Jess posted in Behavior Tuesday

My 3 year is horrible towards his 1 year old brother

My 3 year old is in that stage where he doesn't care to listen and is so mean to his 1 year old brother. He is nice to him sometimes and shows him affection but NEVER shares. I have done everything to try and help him share and be more loving towards him but he continues to hit him, take toys from him and push him down. We even tried taking him places alone without the baby. I know its prob... More

  • Anonymous
    Tuesday

    When he pushes or hits your 1 yr old, remove the 3 yr old really quickly, tell him no. Then spend more time making sure that your 1 year old is ok. He might be doing it to get attention. When your 3 year old is nice and affectionate to your 1 yr old, be sure to really praise that every single time. Clap, say good job, thank you, get excited, etc.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Tuesday

    I also suggest asking your 3 year old why he did that after you comfort your younger one. You’ll be surprised at the answers likely. Also, it gives him practice verbalizing his feelings, since the real goal should eventually be that instead of hitting, he says what he’s thinking or feeling.

Baby #2...

Just found out I am pregnant with baby #2. My son will be about 2 months shy of being 2.5 when the baby is born. That being said, we've been working on potty training with him since he was a little over 1. He did it all by himself. It's a slow process in the sense that he doesn't always go on the potty, but he willingly goes into the bathroom when we say time to go potty. Plus we ha... More

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08

    I’d say time to buckle down with the potty training before new babe comes! Toss the diapers and deal with accidents accordingly.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 08

    I also agree with ditching the diapers, I think most kids aren't going to willingly give up the diapers if they have the choice and convenience of using them. I potty trained mine at 26 months, and I was 7 months pregnant. If he's going when you tell him then he's proven he knows what to do, and how to do it, and going in the diaper is ONLY happening because he has the option. My m... More

Lindsay posted in Siblings Oct 04

Toddler and baby sharing a bedroom? How the heck!?

Our boys (2.5 & 5 months) will be sharing a bedroom for many years. Not sure the best time to move baby in. Crib is up and he takes naps in there now. Seems like the earlier the better. But between bad dreams & potty training the two year old and the usual baby wakeups I don't know if it's better to just wait. Our baby may be 18 living in our room...lol. any suggestions???

  • Vonda
    Oct 10

    I grew up with my sister in the same room as me from when she was about 6 months (maybe earlier) till we were in high school. Though I was 4 at the time we did pretty well.

  • Myrtle
    Oct 10

    I felt the same way you did and probably would never have pulled the trigger but we went on vacation and the girls ended up sleeping in the same room out of necessity. My girls were one and three at the time and my one-year-old was still waking up multiple times a night which is why I was hesitant to move them in the same room. But my three-year-old hardly ever wakes up when my younger one wake... More

What’s the best way to help prepare your toddler for the arrival of baby No. 2?

We have a 20 month old toddler and we are due with baby No. 2 in December. My toddler seems really interested in baby and will tell us she wants to go for walks with her, and asks to see my belly all the time to give it hugs and kisses. She even tries to share her food with my belly... 😂 I’m wondering if you can recommend any books or tips that helped prepare your toddlers for being an old... More

  • Johanna
    Oct 03

    I kind of rolled my eyes when a friend first showed me this, but my son loved it. His little sister just arrived—he’s 26 months. It is super cheesy, but I think it really helped. My son especially loved to see the baby at the end. https://youtu.be/6xxp5dQe5sU

  • Myrtle
    Oct 06

    We also brought our older one to doctors appointments and give her books about being a big sister. No matter how much you prepare her there will be a period of adjustment for everyone in the house. One thing I did not expect/prepare for was how much I missed Time with my older one once the second one came along. I was exclusively nursing so I had to spend more time with the baby feeding and we ... More

Anonymous posted in Child Care Sep 24

Giving Birth and Childcare

Why do I feel 100x more emotional about having to leave my 2 year old for a few days to give birth than the actual process of giving birth?! 😭

  • Jennie
    Sep 26

    Girl I just had my 5th and still feel that way!! I hate leaving my kids. I send my husband home at night because I'd rather be alone than think about then waking up and being sad

  • Anonymous
    Sep 26

    Jennie! Yes that will totally be me!!! I’d rather be at the hospital alone than have my baby be put to bed without us :/

Katherine posted in Babies Sep 19

ISO a double stroller for a new baby and tall toddler

I’m about 4 weeks away from having baby #3 and on the hunt for a stroller that will accommodate a tall toddler (32 lbs) and a Graco car seat. I’d really like to find an option where the two year old can sit in front. I’ve been looking at Graco (some seem too small) Baby Jogger, Joovy, but the challenge is finding them on sale in person so we can test them out. Any recommendations are appreciated!

  • Sara
    Sep 22

    We have the Graco Ready2Grow double stroller and really like it. Our 2yo is also tall (37”&30lbs). He sits in front and our infant can now sit facing towards us in the back in his Graco car seat or just in the seat. The stroller has so many different ways of riding too... two car seats, two toddler seats, a seat and a stand up, etc. We also bought ours used for $80 so definitely worth t... More

HELP!!!!!

I have a budget of $500! What can I do for my boy/girl twins birthday????? They’re turning TWO. Please help. Their birthday is a month away.😩

  • Jasmin
    Sep 18

    Cake and ice cream... Maybe a bounce house. Keep it simple, they won't remember it anyways lol

  • JT
    Sep 25

    Agree. They don’t need much and won’t remember it. Lunch or dinner get together with cake. DONE.

Anonymous posted in Behavior Sep 16

22 m/o in hitting phase

My wife and I have a 22 month old and a week old infant. Our 22 month old has been acting out and is in a hitting phase. She’s making me feel absolutely crazy, where I am starting to feel instant anger. I want to be the best parent I can be, but the overwhelming negative feelings are getting more intense every day. Thanks in advance.

  • Rebecca
    Sep 18

    My life. My older was fine until the newborn came. It’s a hard adjustment and takes time. Sorry.

  • Genesis
    Sep 19

    My, now 5 & 6 year old, went through hitting phase when they were about 3 & 4. They would hit each other non-stop. It would drive me crazy because no matter how many times we explained that we have to keep our hands to ourselves, they wouldn't listen. It lasted a while but they finally got the idea when I would sit them down and I would play with them and show them how we communicat... More

Working part time while having a big family

My fiancé and I want 6 kids when we get married. Right now he works part time and I am currently looking for a part time job. I graduated from school over a year ago, but I’m having trouble finding work. I’m wondering if it’s even possible to be a working parent while having a big family?

  • Donna
    Sep 19

    I’m a full time working mom of 3 under 6 and I’m making it work. But I’ll admit that oftentimes, it is hard to strike a balance. Either work or family or finances takes a backseat, and they take turns. It was also really tough financially having 3 in daycare at once. For that reason, I’d say to try to space them out to have no more than 2 in full time daycare at a time.

Anonymous posted in Siblings Sep 08

Morning sickness and advice?

Hi mamas! (and dads)! I just found out I’m pregnant with baby #2! Which means I’ll officially have 2 under 2. Does anyone have any advice? Tips and tricks? I also have been having awful morning sickness and need any and all advice for it, I had a bit of nausea with my first but it was never this bad. Help a mama out😅 TIA!!

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Sep 09

    I had my first two 17 months apart. I honestly don’t think there is much you can do to “prepare” baby 1, except to transition them ahead of time out of things like the pack n play or car seat so they don’t feel like baby stole it. I had some rough morning sickness as well, and I did a lot of laying around while reading books, laying on the floor playing blocks or just letting him climb on me an... More

  • Brittany
    Sep 27

    I had terrible morning sickness.. the only thing that worked for me was unisom tablets. I took half of one before bed and the sickness was much more bearable the next day. They did make me very sleepy all day though. Do a google search for unisom and morning sickness because I can’t remember exactly how you’re supposed to take it but it was a miracle for me.

Anonymous posted in Babies Aug 26

Mama’s w/ Two kids under Two:

Me & my husband are wanting to have another kid soon, but first I would like to get the pros/con, suggestions etc of what other moms have went through, struggled with, loved, disliked etc with having two kids under two. TIA!

  • Jennie
    Aug 29

    I had 2 under 2 (now I have 5 under 8) and I loved it. The first few months are tough but once you get into a good routine, it's great. Now they are 7 & 8 and it's awesome because they're basically at the same development levels and want to do things together. I wish my other kids were closer in age, to be honest.

  • Sierra
    Aug 30

    It’s been much harder than I imagined for me. My oldest was really jealous no matter how much I tried to do all the right things to help them bond. It did get better with time though, 80% of the time they both love playing together. What was the hardest for me was combining both their schedules and that they both needed and wanted my full attention at the same time and fought to have it. I had ... More

Anonymous posted in Behavior Aug 26

Sharing

Tips for helping a 2 yr old learn to share...

  • Kieli
    Aug 26

    If I’m playing with my daughter, or even if she’s playing with a friend and isn’t being nice/ sharing I tell her “if you don’t share I won’t play with you anymore” or “if you aren’t playing nice your friend is going to go home” and then she realizes that she needs to play nice and share. I usually have to tell her more than once, but after I say it she gets the point. And I agree with the post ... More

  • PK
    Aug 26

    I think sharing is just a hard concept for toddlers to grasp and accept. But you can teach them how to share in terms they understand and accept... like trading and taking turns. Whenever I mention the word “share” to my son, there’s a 75% chance he will throw a tantrum. If I mention “trade” or “take turns” however, it’s a different story.

Anonymous posted in Family Planning Aug 21

Wanting a third kid?

I’m 34yrs old with boy/girl twins who are 3. I kind of want a third ... but idk if we d be able to handle it. Financially or otherwise + I feel like I’m getting old. Hahaha How did you guys decide to have a second or third or fourth?

  • K
    Aug 22

    I had my FIRST at 34😂, so in my opinion your ahead of the game😁. I am the opposite; had my baby boy first and when we tried fir a second we got 2😳🎀🎀. Finances will always be a worry, no matter what for most of us. If you are not done, you will know it, trust yourself. If you go on to have a singleton and not another set of twins, you will be pleasantly surprised by how easy it is going to feel... More

  • Aya
    Aug 23

    I'm the opposite as well. Singleton + Twins, 4.5 years apart. I had my twins when I was 39 (they were a surprise) - so you still have a lot of time. My best friend just had the twins + singleton combo, and I agree with the above statement, after having twins, having singletons will be a breeze for you. Especially since by the time you have the baby, the twins will be a bit older. Finan... More

Lina posted in Siblings Aug 21

30 something, 9 yr old son, too late to have more?

My son just turned 9 and has been asking (begging) for a sibling for years. I did try and was not successful. 2 miscarriages. I want to try again but now I’m in my late 30’s and he is already 9! I struggle with this every single day. I’m 1 of 6 kids. I feel so much guilt not giving him a childhood with siblings. I would be devastated if I couldn’t give him any at all but is it too late?

  • Jenny
    Aug 29

    I had 4 kids from my first marriage 2 boys 15 & 14, and 2 girls 18 & 16. I had remarried. Both my new husband and I were 35 he’d raised step kids but never had any of his own so he wanted kids! We had a boy in oct 2014 my kids being the ages they were not thrilled at first lol but when the baby came it was completely different they all loved him and jumped right in to helping take care ... More

  • Nise
    Aug 30

    My sister is 40 with a 21 yr old a 9 year old and a 2 year old. Your not too old. Forgot about what society has taught you about what age you should be having babies and do what you want. P.S I’m 33 and have a 14 yr old, 5 year old and a newly turned 1 yr old.

Time To Bottle Wean

I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and i’m ready to get rid of bottles. It was hard with my 2 year old because his brother came and he always wanted a bottle like the baby. I think now it time to remove it from both. Any tips? Suggestion? Best Cups?

  • Stacey
    Aug 13

    Our son has not used a bottle since we stopped formula at about a year. He is almost 2 now. He uses 360 cups and those are great. We are starting to use the Reflow smart cup at meal times. It's a normal cup but has an insert to control the flow of the drink. He likes to try to drink out of anything Mom and Dad are using so he's had practice with water bottles, big tumblers and straws.

  • Gemma
    Aug 15

    Transitional cups work great

Anonymous posted in Newborns Aug 06

Super clingy 3 year old just before new baby

My 3 year old has always been a mama’s boy, but these past couple months he’s been extra clingy, and now with less than a week before my due date with baby #2, he literally does not want to leave my side. He doesn’t want his dad, or anyone else, but mommy to do anything with him. He only wants mommy to change him, get him his food/drink, put him in his car seat, give him his bath, etc. Of cours... More

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 07

    Give it Time, he’s sensing the upcoming changes and he’s having a hard time understanding and processing. I only have one child but I used to nanny for big families. Those first few days, weeks, and months can be so hard but so rewarding. I found the older siblings who fared best in the transition had parents who were always there to acknowledge their child’s feelings and found ways to still gi... More

  • Ivy
    Aug 07

    My two and four year old love their baby sister dearly, since the first night. But I did notice my 2 year old regress a lot and has been acting out a lot more as I assume he desires more quality attention from me. What has helped, is having him be as involved as possible with his baby sister. When she cries, I tell him to check on her and when he makes her smile or stop crying, he gets lots of ... More

Stephanie posted in Flying Aug 04

Any travel hacks/tips for flying with LO's?

I have b/g twins that are 17 months old. We are trying to plan a trip to Colorado (3 hr flight). What should I bring, and what are the teavel fees for bringing baby gear?

  • Anonymous
    Aug 04

    Check airline website for more info on travel fees. But I believe all airlines allow you to check car seats and strollers for free (per baby). With a child that age who can’t consistently follow directions, I would check the stroller at the gate so that you have the stroller up until you board and you can get it when you get off the plane. Are the kids going to be in your laps? We did a fligh... More

MOM posted in Siblings Aug 02

Age gap in siblings??

Is 5 year age gap too long in siblings?

  • Stephanie
    Aug 30

    My oldest is 14 then surprise I now have a 5 month old...

  • Jamie
    Sep 05

    My oldest will be 21 next month and surprise! I have a 3 month old. Also a 1 1/2 year old Grandson. Yes, I said grandson Lol. My daughter loves her brother and despite the two decade age difference there is still some jealousy over my attention. They already have a unique and strong bond. My son only laughs out loud for his sister and already cries when she puts him down to leave. They have alr... More

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