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Agree with the above about continuing to explain reasonings & redirection is also great! If my child is throwing something I don’t want her to throw that I give her something she CAN (throw like a ball). Let’s say she picked up a rock and was throwing it It might sound something like this: “Wow I can see you really want to throw right now, throwing things is so much fun! Rocks are dangerous to throw because they might hurt somebody if we hit them with a rock. Here’s a ball show me how far you can throw it!” I heard this other pointer on a podcast and I really liked it (once your daughter is more verbal). Instead of giving them the solution to the problem help them problem solve and come up with their own solution. For example in the scenario above instead of suggesting a ball you could say something like this: I see you really want to throw right now, throwing is so much fun! can you think of/find something else that you can throw that won’t hurt somebody? Plus if they come up with a solution on their own they’re more likely to buy into it than something that an adult suggests to them. Good luck!