I don't have much advice to give with taking your little one with. But I have had to go through the process of getting my grandma diagnosed with dementia, and everything that goes along with it and I would urge you to pressure your father for help. If she has it, her abilities will dwindle and her needs will increase, and someone, if not you, will have to be prepared to support her. It was really tough despite the fact I didn't have any children when it started. They should however give you pamphlets upon pamphlets about services that can give rides, or deliver meals, etc.
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