I agree with talking to your OBgyn about sex and why it hurts. But for the other part, if he’s deciding he doesn’t want to be married, other than counseling, not sure what you can do about it. Yes it sucks for you and for the kids. And maybe once he’s a single dad half the time he’ll see that’s harder and you can decide if you want to take him back. But...people get divorced. It sucks. But then you move on.
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