Posted in Behavior, Toddlers

18mo mad and aggressive

Anonymous

Hi parents, I have an 18 month old right now and he has quite a personality. Since he was younger he would never smile back at people on the street like other babies, or most of the time it was like that, and now if someone talks to him he gets mad and he turns around and when someone wants to carry him like my mom sometimes he gets aggressive and starts hitting himself. When we’re at home (I’m a SAHM) he’s not like this. Yes he gets mad during the day when I take something away from him that he shouldn’t have just like any other baby, but daddy gets home and he doesn’t wanna give him a kiss he just turns around, and sometimes even screams. There’s days that he’s in a good mood and he’s really good with everyone but that doesn’t happen very often. I try to explain to him that it’s not okay to scream or act aggressive or hit people, but when I’m telling him he just gets mad ☹️ I’m desperate. I’m wondering if anyone can relate to this or what I can do for him to be more social. I must say his dad and I don’t have the best relationship and I believe that has something to do with his reactions, I’ve even thought of splitting for the best of our baby.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27

    My parents had a crappy relationship (still do). When I was young, my dad was both physically and verbally abusive to my mom. It rarely happened in front of me but it affected me. I used to scratch my face all the time as a toddler (on purpose). I don't think I understood why at the time but I'm sure it was frustration, fear, etc. I'm not sure if anyone made the connection in my house but it was definitely related to the tension between my parents. Kids pick up on tension and emulate the way their parents act. Parents are their role models. If you think there's a problem, there is. If counseling is an option, I'd certainly suggest it. I hope are able to get yourself and your son in a better situation, whether dad is in the picture or not.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27

    I would mention it to his doctor!

  • Anonymous
    Sep 29

    I can 100% relate! Mine is 3 and just not a friendly character in general. He’s not mad all the time but I would never use the word HAPPY to describe him. He’s just very intense w emotions. I don’t know what to do about it but it helps to know I’m not alone

  • Anonymous
    Sep 29

    I want to add my spouse and I DO have a wonderful jovial relationship so I don’t know where my 3yo gets it

  • Lisha
    Oct 02

    Hello, i agree with mentioning it to the doctor. My doctors office started this website for behavioral problems with children. Here is the link - https://hcc.behaviorchecker.org/?fbclid=IwAR25TSu89FfZD9q8Zw5Tkrr0jl4ym7Ly7a9CuT8Wdy9wq7iAfkN6pw7gN04

  • Lisha
    Oct 02

    Sorry i meant to put behavioral problems with children.. lol . I am new to this site so bare with me. My son is 19 months old and he is over all a really happy baby.. but sometimes he gets this mean mug poker player face. Usually when someone is trying to talk to him that he doesnt know or someone trying to talk to me that i don't know.. barely know etc.. I think he feeds off my vibe changes. He will just stare down someone..

  • Anonymous
    Oct 25

    Thank y’all so much!! I’m currently on therapy and my relationship with my husband has been improving ever since, I am gonna mention it to his doctor and see what we can do