So, just because you stay at home to be a caregiver to your child and do the majority of the domestic stuff, doesn't mean he gets to skip out on doing his fair share. Otherwise you will never, ever, ever get a break (and start to resent your family) because childcare never ends. Realistically, your "work at home job" obligation is equivalent to whatever hours he is working at his job, maybe a little more if you want to be "nice". You obviously get as much done as you can during those hours. After that, the hours of work required for your life are half his obligation - how the two of you chose to split that is obviously up to you, but it should be done fairly so you both get downtime or "me" time. Unfortunately, when they are 3 there isn't a whole heck of a lot of time left over, but you seek it out where you can. My husband and I often trade off on vacation... we both have different priorities on what we need from vacation, so we work with each other for those goals. If my husband wants to do a not-friendly for our 3 year old activity, because he often does, I take the preschooler to do something else. My husband often gets up early with our son, so he will take him to explore the city we are in or to go play someplace for an hour or two so I can sleep in. Boom, both of us have our needs met, and get quality one-on-one time/memories with our son. Your husband needs to realize he is missing out if he thinks actively participating in fatherhood is "babysitting."
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