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2 under 2?

Anonymous

Hey all! Was wondering some tips and tricks you had for having 2 under 2. My daughter is 5.5 months and we just found out we’re having another baby! Which means she’ll be about 14 months when our next one is born. I’ve heard it’s harder to go from 1 baby to 2, and just wanted advice on how to handle it, what to expect and what I can do to make it a little easier on everyone. Any and all answers are appreciated:)

  • Ashly
    May 10

    I learned to not stress about everything, go with the flow, baby wearing will help a lot. Luckily mine was pretty laid back and entertained herself when I needed to feed my youngest or whatever. Try to get them on the same sleep schedule so you can get some rest :). I feel it’s harder when they are toddlers, 2 and 3, 13 months apart! You can do it just figure out what is best for you guys!

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    May 10

    I think it depends on your personality, I had my second when my first was 17 months. I will always say going from no babies to babies is the hardest because of the sleep adjustment. I think what works for me (In August I’ll have four kids under age 5), is having a flexible routine, not a strict schedule. I also have to be willing to multitask with the kids. Sit on the floor and nurse while playing legos or reading books, or helping my kids color and do workbooks while also cooking dinner and maybe wearing the baby. It’s doable, but the routine has to be routine and yet flexible. And not something so strict that you get stressed out when the kids aren’t following it. And in those first 6-18 months (depending on how fast they become playmates), give yourself a lot of leeway for getting chores done. The best way to keep the older one feeling important and full is to give that extra energy and time to them when baby is sleeping or chilling. There will always be laundry to do, meals to cook, things to clean and it’s so hard to focus on the kids when those things need to be done, but if you can at least a few times a day use those “breaks” to give your older one attention they’ll feel more connected and play better on their own the rest of the time.

  • Ashley
    May 10

    Baby wearing was a must for me! It made doing everything with my older son that much easier. Try to go with the flow and just know some days will be harder than others. It is all worth it when you see them interact and play with each other.

  • Kieli
    May 11

    Well I just started ... I have a 1 week old and a 23 month old (so she’s close to 2 already, a little older). But my oldest has really been having a hard time at night. She doesn’t fall asleep until 11 or 12 every night which is horrible on me and makes me want to cry! I’m hoping she will come out of it, and start sleeping by herself again. She loves the baby, and wants to be with her all the time which is great. I’m also struggling to get my oldest outside to have play time everyday, but I’m sure I’ll get into a schedule as my youngest gets older.