Anonymous

2 year old not listening to mom

I’m about to rip my hair straight out my head!!! My 27 month old listens to everyone but me. He will let anyone but me change his diaper and dress him. I get a tantrum and literally have to hold him down to get anything done. At first I thought Maybe I was hurting him but I’ve watched my husband do both and it’s no different than I do. He cuddles with me and likes me(lol) so I’m wondering if it’s just a behavior thing? Like he feels he can get away with more with me? Anyone else have this issue? Any tips?

  • anonymous mom
    Feb 10

    So my daughter is 2.5 and her teacher tells me they act the worst with those they love and trust the most because they know they’re safe with them and there’s no way we will ever stop loving them just because they dragged toilet paper all over the house and then threw an epic tantrum when you, “threw away all the pretty paper ribbon,” and managed to scream, “go away mommy!! Just go away!” Through the tears. Not speaking from experience or anything 😐. Twisted logic if you ask me (why wouldn’t you be nice to the person you love and trust the most?!) but it made me feel better:). I do find that giving a choice helps sometimes. Letting her choose her shirt (after I’ve pulled 2 or 3 that are weather appropriate from her drawers), or on days when she’s super resistant I tell her she can dress herself once I have clothes picked out for her and she eventually asks for help (usually). I also let her practice getting dressed with my oversized shirts (makes it easier to aim for the armholes, lol!). That way she can slowly become more independent. The resistance to diaper changing might be a sign he’s ready for potty training!! The last resort is to not focus on the thing he dislikes doing and instead focus on the next step. Meaning, say something like, “I can’t wait to go to the store with you!! You get to pick out the BREAD and you can choose the vegetable for tonight’s dinner! Want to go? Yes!? Great! First, let’s change your diaper and put on these clothes so we can go TO THE STORE!!!” Because at least for me, my tone of voice is half the battle. Then that night I’ll tell my husband beforehand that he better go on and on and on about how freakin amazing the broccoli is and we both talk about how proud we are of her for being a good listener and helping mommy pick out such delicious food. 😃.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 10

    Thank you so much for taking the time with such a lengthy and informative response. I really appreciate it and needed it today. If we didn’t love these toddlers so much.... so thanks mama for helping me out!

  • Anonymous
    Feb 10

    Ps I totally “lol”ed at the I told my husband part.

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    Thanks anonymous mom for the informative response. It helps a lot.

  • Tumurkhuyag
    Monday

    Good advice