But it's ok for you both to be down in the dumps as long as you are both open about it. And praise the Lord, girl - I know what you mean! It took my husband a while to do things without asking too, and it was like a load off my shoulders! It all takes time, but it seems like you both are going in the right direction. If it helps, try to just rent a movie together to have some time when kids are asleep and just chill. And maybe plan a family outing once a week. Just to kinda shake off that down in the dumps feeling. You can even look online for "ice breakers" to help open and start a conversation. My husband and I love those!
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