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My husband and I went through this exact thing when my daughter was an infant. We decided he was going to take set jobs and they were his without me reminding, but he’d do them. When I pointed out that having to remind still puts part of the burden on me, he got it. So he washes ALL the dishes/bottles/pump parts daily. He folds the laundry. He does bathtime solo. And we split the cleaning and cooking based on who has time/energy. He chose what he thought he’d be good at and would be stuff off my plate. And I let it go if he folds he laundry ways I don’t like.