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3 year old refuses to poop in potty

Anonymous

My 3.5 year refuses to poop in potty and I don’t know what to do. I tried rewards,I let her cry but she refuses to go.Did any one go through this.Need some advice. Thank you so much.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 23

    Has she had at least one successful poop in the potty? We had trouble until I just sat down with my son in the bathroom and let him sit there for half an hour reading books and listening to music and watch some YouTube videos. He eventually couldn’t hold it in anymore and just went. Then he found it cool to flush poop down the toilet... and realized it wasn’t that bad. Also, when I poop I let him watch. I show him what came out of me and told him that since it’s my poop, I get to flush it. 🤞🤞 for you!!

  • Ivy
    Aug 23

    Yes, my second wouldn’t poop in the toilet. Eventually, I put his toilet in the closet and had him sit on the toilet in there and he went. I guess he wanted privacy.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 23

    She did twice in the potty but stopped after that ,she says she doesn’t like doing in the potty.Hoping she would learn soon.Thank you for the reply’s .

  • Ivy
    Aug 23

    It does take some time. I realize that it’s very unnatural for some of them who have been trained to do it in their diapers their whole life. I know whenever I’m camping, I really can’t just go poop in the forest. I’ve tried! My body won’t let me... I’m sure she’ll get there, keep it up!

  • K
    Aug 23

    Yes, it is frustrating!!! My son refused to poop, so at his 3 year appt I talked to his doctor. She said I it was probably a control thing, then gave me the advice that changed everything. It was a stressful situation for all of us daily, so she said let it go and let him poop in a diaper. He had to wear his big boy underwear pee in the potty, but when he had to poop he had to tell me and I’d put his diaper on. Sounds f*ing crazy I know, but it worked! He lasted 1 day. Worth a try... 🤞

  • Anonymous
    Aug 23

    Thanks K ,that’s what I have been doing .She wears her panties but when it’s time to go poop she will tell me and I put on the diaper for her. I don’t want to make going to poop a negative thing for her. I am just hoping she will do it soon 🙁

  • Rina
    Aug 23

    This is my life 😓😓 my daughter is the same age and same exact issue. She will pee all day long but refuse to poo unless it’s in a diaper. I’ve tried everything you mentioned as well. Good luck and I hope it goes smoothly ❤️🤞🏼

  • Anonymous
    Aug 24

    Good luck for both of us Rina ❤️

  • Julia
    Aug 24

    My son was the same, he would bring me a diaper when he needed to poop and ask me to put it on. So eventually, I showed him the last pack of diapers and told him when those are done we won’t have anymore so he’ll need to start using the potty. It worked with no issues. He just knew there wasn’t a diaper to wear, so he went on the toilet.

  • Janine
    Aug 24

    I could have written this post myself! Definitely following

  • Pot Papi
    Aug 26

    One thing I think you can try to do is to go out and really pre-frame and build up her getting a new potty of her own brand new little toilet for her self you know really build it up going to the store the whole thing you know picking it out giving them different options and let her pick the one that she likes the best and then when you get home letting her decide where in the bathroom it’s going to go and all those little things that make it exciting might help that process nothing a sure fire but it’s definitely a good place to start. Would you also might definitely have to do is stop giving her the diapers and just really bite the bullet on that one and it’s going to hurt it’s gonna be hard for you or you and your partner but it’s definitely the one thing you’ll have to do if not I’ll never work she’ll always know that they have that to fall back on. Hope this help. ✌🏽and love