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I’m so sorry that you’re going through this right now. We went through this with our cat last year (kidney failure) and our (then) 2 year old. We had spent months giving him medicine and fluids until he reached his end so she knew he was very sick and he had to go to the vet to get frequent check ups. When we finally had to say good bye we told her that he had been very sick for a long time and medicine couldn’t help him anymore. His body stopped working and he died. I did cry in front of her and explained that we would miss him very much and that was ok and it was ok to be sad and that she could talk about him with us whenever she wanted. We also made sure to let her day care know what was going on and how we were talking about it with her so that if she brought it up with them they could use the same language so as not to confuse her. She wouldn’t really talk too much about it until a couple of months later and then she started parroting back a lot of what we had told her. It took her a while to process and we still hear her mention him every once in a while. Kids process these things in their own time and way. My heart goes out to you and your family.