Trust your gut. From what you posted, I agree that your daughter would benefit from medication and possibly counseling. I don't know about medications specifically and I am not a medical professional but she is old enough to communicate how the meds are affecting her so that should help in finding the correct dosage and type. Find a doctor that has expertise in this field and get her help as soon as possible. She shouldn't have to suffer like she is currently. Good luck. You obviously love your daughter and see how wonderful she is, get her help so others can see that also.
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