3yo Anxiety Concerns
Hi again, I'm back with another request for help/ideas/collaboration. Background info - I am a recovering perfectionist stemming from childhood trauma of my own, and I've lightened up immensely in the last couple years. Having a daughter has taught me a lot about priorities. It's also taught me that perfection will kill me if I don't make changes. Anyway, back to the main reason for this post. My daughter (turns 4 next month) reacts very strongly to things being out of place, i.e. her ottoman a few inches to the left, her rocking bunny at a diagonal angle instead of straight out from the wall, her bedtime scenario being exactly how she wants it (bathroom door closed, closet doors closed, closet lights off, fan on low, sounds machine on full blast, stuffed animals tucked in next to her, blankets tucked in around the sides and end of her bed, kisses and hugs, and several bedtime phrases, etc.). It's exhausting for my husband and me, and I know it's exhausting and stressful for her as well. How do we help her through this struggle? It's likely a mix of nature and nurture, and my anxious brain quickly jumps to "Do we need to send her to a child psychologist? It's too early to diagnose OCD, right? Did I create this mess of anxiety in my own child?" It breaks my heart and also triggers my own anxiety. Please - I'm purely asking for help and not criticism. Thank you in advance!