We’ve gone through the phase a couple (few?) times already - 4-year old has been in day care/preschool since an infant and I was surprised at the young age when I heard the first “I don’t want to go to school!” Kate’s suggestions are good. I also just use a “ho hum” attitude and say, “well, it’s a school day for you, and a work day (or work at home day) for me and daddy. Our grownup work would be boring for you and it’s way more fun to play with your friends. We’ll see you at the end of the school day.” I don’t argue with his feelings about it, and make sure to not put any of my own emotion about it in my response - no apologies, no guilt or sadness. I don’t open it up to much discussion, but I just acknowledge it can be hard to be away sometimes. They really latch on to any sense of guilt! Lately it helps if I spend an extra 5 min at drop off time doing something active on the playground with him- soccer or tossing a ball. Redirects the emotion and helps the transition, then he’s like “bye mom!”
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