Reply to Trouble with in-laws

Ugh. I hate to say it because it’s so cliche, but in laws suck. I would be so upset. My daughter had a dairy/soy intolerance that cleared around 11 months. Those yogurt bites would have caused serious gastric upset and likely bloody stools. I would have been livid!! Also, it’s even more infuriating to me because she’s too young to try them AND they have other options for the same yogurt bites (I know that happy baby also sells coconut milk yogi bites, my daughter ate them now and then back when she was still dealing with the milk intolerance!). Then the Apple pie thing is ridiculous. And I hate to say it, but it’s sooooo old school/lazy in my opinion!!! If you want to let an infant experience something as awesome as apple pie, give it to them on a spoon!!! Stop shoving a pacifier nipple covered in sugary goo into my baby’s mouth!!! Finally though, the audacity of all of them to just start shoving crap in your baby’s mouth when she’s just starting solids and we’re supposed to be feeding new foods one at a time so we can know what (if anything) causes an allergy!!! I have to say, most likely your baby will be fine. BUT I would still call the doc and I’d inspect the next couple of BMs for mucusy stools since that’s the telltale sign of a good intolerance. I’d also inspect to get an idea of what other crap they fed her!!! If your in laws are anything like mine, they will use the age old quote tat I find so ignorant, “well, that’s what I did with my kids and they survived!” My reply to this is usually, “that’s great and all but I don’t set survival as my threshold. For me, that bar is incredibly low. My preference is for my baby to thrive, not just survive. If you cannot be respectful of parents and how they wish to do things then you will not get to visit with my baby unless I’m sitting right here watching every move you make.” Ugh. So sorry. Obviously this is a heated subject for me. The good thing is my husband is on board and finds his family similarly aggravating. At my daughters first thanksgiving, she was 3 months old. I walked out of the bathroom to find my mil trying to rub cake frosting on her tongue with her bare nasty finger 🤮. Then at her first Christmas, my husband let his step mom hold her and she pulled out a freaking peppermint and tried to shove it in her mouth. On the flip side, my family is 4 times as big as his and none of them, not one, has ever tried to sneak food into her or do some to her that they knew I didn’t want done. They also will not try anything that they’re unsure of without asking me first. It’s like night and day. I’m sorry you had to go through this.