Reply to Just found out I’m having twins...

Anonymous I had a lot of the same concerns you do. I'm a stay at home mom as well, partially due to daycare being so expensive. I feel bad that I don't spend as much time with my older son but he does love to help around the house and has grown to love his brothers. I'm sure once they can play with him he'll be even more excited. Our house has two bedrooms up and two down. My older son is in the bedroom next to us and we have the twins in our room in bassinets next to each other. It's not ideal and honestly we're trying to sell our house right now to get a house with 4 bedrooms on one floor and it's super stressful but I don't want my older son downstairs and I also didn't feel I could handle the stress of moving when pregnant because I was afraid the stress would cause me to miscarry. That's just me though. I am really lucky in that my husband sleeps in our room upstairs with the twins and I sleep in the spare room downstairs and just get up once a night to pump. I can't sleep through all of their grunts and when I used to sleep up there with them I never got any sleep whatsoever which made me a horrible SAHM. My singleton didn't sleep well until he was 18 months old so I know what it's like to be sleep deprived but sleeping in the same room with the twins I seriously got about an hour of sleep a night. Anyway, luckily my husband is willing to do that, doesn't require as much sleep as me and can sleep through the grunts but wakes for the cries. That's another perk of exclusively pumping as well that he can take over overnight. I breastfed my singleton for 21 months until I was 2 months pregnant with the twins. It was really hard for me at first to not breastfeed the twins but between being preemies, one in the NICU, and them having difficulty latching it just wasn't in the cards. Come to find out they both had tongue and lip ties that had to be corrected with a laser at 2 months old which is why they couldn't latch well and why they had horrible reflux for the first two months. Regarding sleeping arrangements, I've thought about all three boys in one room too and I have the same fears you do. I'm hoping we can get our house ready to be sold and into our new house before the babies outgrow their bassinets but we'll see. Sadly it might not turn out that way. Another thing you could do is have the babies in bassinets in the living room if it's on the same floor as you and leave the bedroom door open. We thought about that though we have a cat and we're worried she'd jump into a bassinet so that wasn't an option for us. Right now the babies sleep in our room overnight in their bassinets but nap much of the day in their bouncers in the living room. It's good to get them used to sleeping through noise. I didn't do that with my singleton and I think that's part of why he was always such a bad sleeper. Eventually I'll have them take naps in their bassinets but it just works out this way for now. I remember what it's like to be where you're at right now so well since I was there just about a year ago. So scary, so many questions, so many fears. Try to relax as much as you can, try to do what you can now while you aren't massive (my belly was measuring full term from 28 weeks on...I was SOOOO miserable and could barely do anything for months) and find support on places like Winnie here or Facebook groups of twins. It really helps. Just don't get too caught up in the horror stories because most ppl post when they have concerns. Doesn't mean every pregnancy will have complications as long as you go to your biweekly appointments and all of that. Good luck!