Posted in Behavior, Blended Families, Big Kids

6 Year Old, that doesn’t wanna listen.

I’m needing help on this problem too. I’ve been with this little girl for 8 months now, moved in with her & her dad ( bf of mine ). She hasn’t been respectful or good at listening to me at all. She acts totally different when her dad gets home from work. Or when she’s around other people. She likes to ignore me Or throw tantrums. So I send her to timeout. But it seems like she isn’t learning her lessons. Does anyone have advice?

  • Tia
    Mar 20

    Xena you have to find a way to reach her and she needs to understand that you truly care for her and you are not trying to come between her and her dad. It’s like she is marking her territory so you will possibly leave. Talk with your bf and remind her she has her place with her dad.

  • Lauren
    Mar 21

    Some children do not learn anything from a time-out. I would find a way to connect with her for a couple weeks. Ice cream, paint her nails, craft together stuff she is into etc. Then after you have formed a more positive bond together she will most likely be more willing to respect you and do what you are asking. I have two step sons and I’ve tried everything. After 5.5 years I asked them what they like and I started 1 or 2 times a week doing those things with them. Now when I ask them to help with household chores 80% of the time they do it without a attitude.

  • Xena
    Mar 21

    Thank You all so much for the help! I will try things out, make some charts for chores & etc and see where it goes from there . Thank you so much y’all

  • John Maxwell
    Mar 22

    All you have to do is engage in all activities she loves doing, Make her see you and talk to you as a friend not someone trying to replace her mom.