It sounds like the issue is her boyfriend? Is it just him that doesn’t want to go to your family stuff or do you think it’s her too? My husband isn’t a fan of my family gatherings... my family knows it and they don’t really bring it up to me anymore because they know it’s a sensitive topic. If anything, they’ll just say “hey, we really miss having you at these events. What can we change so you can make it next time?” My brother and his wife are the same way.. my brother tends to do more things with his wife’s family. He doesn’t want to (he told us her family is annoying) but she calls the shots in their relationship. My family stopped pressuring him because we know it’s a sensitive topic and he gets really upset being torn in the middle like that. We value his happiness over anything so we just let it go. My brother and his wife have been together longer than my husband and me so I had that experience first. Knowing how much it sucks for my family, I have been upfront with my husband about being fair with how much time we spend with his family and how much time we spend with mine. So he makes an effort but I just get an earful of complaints in private 🙄 I told him his family isn’t perfect either so he is working on it. Anyway... that’s my perspective. I don’t think you’re being sensitive but you should be sensitive to your sisters situation. Tell her you guys miss her and would love to see them come around more often. Try to get her to open up about why she isn’t attending and going to her boyfriends events instead. Have a talk about balance between time spent between two families.
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