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Raising twins I had that problem A LOT in the beginning. My Daddy felt that they should each have the same toy, the same book, even the same bike!! I set him straight early-on, and my Mom agreed. If they get two different toys, they have twice as much to play with. As far as bicycles, one was much more athletic, and would have greatly preferred a regular bike to the training wheels. By the time the boys were 5, they were clamoring for a Nintendo. This made gift-giving SO easy. I encouraged the gaming, as this pushed them to build their reading skills to read the game manuals (both began reading at age 3). If there are too many toys, or a gift you don't approve of for your child---please exchange it YOURSELF. When the boys were older, one of the in-laws, who is notoriously cheap, bought them each a sweatshirt and T-shirt to match. My younger son wanted a bigger size. The shirt had MACYS tags on it, so off we went to the closest store. When we got to the store, my oldest also had his box in hand, to exchange his clothes too. He got in line first, and exchanged his outfit without incident, for a store credit. Then it was his brother's turn. The saleslady grimaced, then was on the phone, her back to us. A gaggle of supervisors came to the register, and eyed us suspiciously as we waited. Finally one of the men approached us, and handed the box back to us. Politely, he explained that the clothes DID NOT come from Macys, and the tag was not legit. I quickly took the box, caught my son around the shoulders, and we rapidly left the register. I as a very loving (and insulted) Mom, matched the amount of his brother's credit in cash, and placed it into the injured child's hand. Off they went to spend their money... The fraudulent outfit was donated to our church. My kids still remember the "aunt" who switched tags on a gift she gave them. Sometimes, we Moms have to take charge.