I still have little kids, so I haven't been through this. With my kids, though, I try to remind myself that they don't usually act out unless there is a problem (hungry, tired, sick, frustrated, etc.) I realize the list of problems that are possible could be endless as they grow, but try coming from a place of compassion first. I'd even question if someone is being inappropriate with them or if puberty is starting. If you can't find any problem, know that many children find it necessary to push others away in order to find themselves. Consider it positive sign of growth, but still set rules and stay consistent. Adults can have bad days, but we still have societal norms and laws to follow and parents need to enforce that behavior. Good luck.
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