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It sounds like you and your ex need to get together and talk about your parenting strategies. I know that's not always possible but if you can both come up with a plan and compromise on some of this it would make things much easier. I don't let my kids have sugary drinks early in the day or late at night and we have a no social media rule in our home. Also, electronic are plugged into the charging station in my room at night. I have a really good relationship with my kids and I think it's because my husband and I are on the same page and my kids know what is expected. I really hope you can work it out. It sounds like your trying your best to guide your kids in the right direction. Without you their mother being an active role in your kids discipline you're going to continue to have it rough.