Reply to 4-Year old's behavior and daycare's feedback

I dunno, this is pretty age appropriate I think! She may just grow out of it. My 4yo has difficulty with transitions so I just give lots of warnings: "5 more minutes to play, then we are getting our shoes on" or "5 more minutes to eat and then I'm taking the plate away. if you don't finish your food you'll be hungry later." Using simple commands also helps a lot with getting his attention. "Hey sweetie, get your shoes on" just doesn't work as well as "Felix. Shoes." Just emphasize the thing that needs to get done so they don't have to parse a complicated sentence to understand. Silly but it works!