Posted in Behavior, Grade Schoolers, Big Kids

7yo lying, breaking rules no punishment helps

My son has been lying in school for no reason, making things up like hes been to Vietnam. And breaking rules. He traded his GPS watch for pokemon cards and said he didn't know where it was. I try to punish him but he doesn't care. I have nothing to take away. I will NOT spank him, but even threats to do it have no reaction. I have no recourse and can't afford therapy.

  • Tiffany
    Oct 12, 2018

    Just stick with what your doing. Unfortunately most kids at school can be really manipulative and probably make things up as well. He is probably just trying to seem cool to the other kids and keep up with them. Sadly its easy for kids to go too far when it comes to trying to impress people to make new friends. He may need a little self esteem boost and just remind him that he is a good kid that can make good choices and good friends without "trading" things or "making" things up!!! Good luck! I'm dealing with it as well with 7 and 9 year old boys but they go to school online at home. They were in public school until this year and I could tell it was the other kids influencing them. My boys are real people pleasers and would give thier favorite toy away if it meant they could gain what they think is a friend. That's not a true friend though, they are just now learning that though!

  • Angie
    Oct 12, 2018

    I have a 9 year old that does the same thing. The unfortunate part is it is affecting his friendship. As in he has very few friends that tolerate it. We are a family that does not mind spanking, but with our son, it does not work. Actually he turns around and hits us. So there goes that logic out the window. For my son at least, he does have other issues (ADHD, learning and other behavior issues) that can be the explanation for why he is lying. For him, the way we parent him is different then the way we parent our older daughter. For my son, he has to know that there will be a consequence for his behavior and if he behaves undesirably, the consequence takes affect. Usually that is the loss of technology. CONSTANCY is the key. You have to follow through with what you say you are going to do, even if that means you have to suffer. Once they learn you will not do it, they have got you and the treats mean nothing. Hope some of this helps, good luck. I feel your pain.

  • A
    Oct 12, 2018

    When my 7 yo acts out we take stuff away whether it’s extracurriculars or even sleepovers. Sometimes it’s effective others it isn’t. Be consistent. I always try to explain if the shady behavior continues it’s only going to lead to trouble and explain to her what the outcome can be as an adult

  • Londy
    Oct 13, 2018

    I’m having this problem with my 8 year old/3rd grader. He also has nothing left to take away and spanking doesn’t help so I’ve stopped. He didn’t have a Birthday party this year or last and he’s now seeing a therapist. We started last week. I’m at my wits end. He’s an all A honor roll student too.

  • Linda
    Oct 19, 2018

    I have 2 step granddaughters one 11 and one 8 they fight all the time with my daughter and her kids what can we do to have them behave better they tell her your not my mom we are so tired of it it’s been 4 Yrs now Help