Reply to My boyfriend's complicated + expensive divorce stresses me out. How do I live...

You are on the right track!! I am in the same situation and I was so stressed out until someone said something that changed my whole outlook....His divorce is none of your business. I know it seems harsh, but truly it is not. His marriage was not your relationship and neither is his divorce. If he wants to come to you for support, then support him, but you cannot and should not be making any of the decisions about what happens in his divorce or how it is handled. The details and fine print are things that you should not be burdened with.