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I have a 17 yr old and I KNOW. I try to put myself in her shoes before I react to anything these days. It’s been a long couple of years but....she really is starting to loosen up and she’s not AS moody as she’s been in the past. One thing I’ve realized is that I HAVE to dive in there and talk about all that annoying teenager crap going on at school with her. She’s got to where she’ll sit down and just start telling me about her life with a little prompting and she feels better after, but this took so long. Sometimes I had to “MAKE” her talk to me when I saw she was clearly upset, sometimes it didn’t work but it let her know I cared and I was there waiting for her and she did come around a lot of the time when I didn’t expect her too. I did have to let her know it’s NOT okay to walk around like that and be rude to people, that whatever she had to do to feel better, more relaxed and get along with her family, do it, or ask for help, sometimes she listened, sometimes I took that phone. Heck, sometimes she NEEDED a break from her phone that she wouldn’t give herself. There is SO much crap they have to deal with at school nowadays, it’s a lot. They all feel like “the only one”. You need girl time with her to bond. Sometimes she would completely ruin girl time with her attitude but sometimes it was great. We made some great memories among the mess of her teenage years. I agree with the other post, all great advice and hard won trade secrets. Just....breathe.