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I have a different way of looking at this... I once struggled with infertility... then after years me and my husband got pregnant then I went into premature labor in my 5th month of pregnancy.. I delivered and he passed away.. my question is Are you sure that she feels resentful towards you? It just may be making her uncomfortable because everyone assumes she will be resentful. If everyone knows her struggles she may feel awkward in those types of settings. What I’m trying to point out is that if you never have talked to her one on one where she has told you it’s hard watching you be pregnant then you don’t truly know how she is feeling about it. I think the next time you are with her and you since the “daggers” maybe carve out some time to talk alone about it with her. Assumptions just cause tension... you could use the opportunity to encourage her. I went through all that and had my rainbow baby plus another!