My husband and I have a "no sharing on social media" rule with all of our relatives. I highly recommend it because then everyone is on the same page and knows that it's not their place to post about your child. My husband and I decided that if our relatives went against our wishes, we would no longer give them pics of the kids until they took them down. So far we have had no problem. Our families respect and understand that we do not know all of their Facebook friends, and that we ourselves share VERY little about our kids with our own contacts. Online privacy is important to us and we made this clear to our relatives. You're the parent, you have every right to let your mom know that this is important to you and that rules have to be respected.
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