Give it Time, he’s sensing the upcoming changes and he’s having a hard time understanding and processing. I only have one child but I used to nanny for big families. Those first few days, weeks, and months can be so hard but so rewarding. I found the older siblings who fared best in the transition had parents who were always there to acknowledge their child’s feelings and found ways to still give them that 1x1 time they desired. If he’s willing when baby comes, let him “help” by grabbing diapers, helping you pick out baby’s outfit, etc. if he does these things, reward him with praise and tell others (visitors, Dad, etc) how great of a big brother he is for helping. give him extra accolades for being such a big boy but balance it by always acknowledging his feelings when he’s sad and give him all those baby snuggles he’s going to want. Even if he’s resistant or seemingly mean/unhappy about the new addition at first, tell him he’s such an amazing big brother and how proud you are if him. If you breastfeed, try to find a way to make breastfeeding time also mommy/big boy time. One of my moms I nannied for would babywear and breastfeed her infant while coloring or reading books or practicing letters with her older child. Just little things like that can help so much and make them realize they’re not being pushed to the side but instead an important, valued member of the family.
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