Posted in Child's Health, Developmental Disorders, Pre-Teens

ADHD pre-teen


Well, this is my first post to Winnie. Not sure what to expect but here it goes. I have a 12-yr old daughter who will be entering 7th grade next year. I am utterly terrified. She is bright, funny, sassy and well...she’s all kinds of wonderful but unfortunately she has lots of challenges too. She is severely ADHD and hyperactive beyond belief. This has impacted her grades for years and she rarely exceeds a C or D despite lots of accommodations. She is extremely immature and socially inept yet is a social butterfly. She doesn’t pick up on social cues and blurts things out, says hurtful things, tells lies, is bossy and as a result burns through friends like it’s her job. She rarely accepts responsibility for anything. I am struggling to maintain her self esteem which has plummeted because she’s always in trouble. She says she’s not smart and is extremely insecure. We tried Vyvanse medication in 3rd grade and it went horribly. She started having panic attacks and lost so much weight she looked like a skeleton. I am really not pro-meds unless absolutely necessary. But it seems perhaps we are there now. Does anyone else have advice about meds or ADHD in general? I am terrified of her going into junior high as immature as she is. Feel like she is ultra-susceptible to wiser teens, drugs, sex, etc.

  • Diane
    Mar 08, 2019

    Trust your gut. From what you posted, I agree that your daughter would benefit from medication and possibly counseling. I don't know about medications specifically and I am not a medical professional but she is old enough to communicate how the meds are affecting her so that should help in finding the correct dosage and type. Find a doctor that has expertise in this field and get her help as soon as possible. She shouldn't have to suffer like she is currently. Good luck. You obviously love your daughter and see how wonderful she is, get her help so others can see that also.

  • Keri
    Apr 10, 2019

    I kinda giggled at this post because your not alone! My daughter is the same way in some aspects and my mother would say “look in the mirror”!! 😓😓 my daughter has grown up with adults most of her life and only kid time is at school. The kids don’t get her personality and her sense of humor. She is to smart for her own good and talks to others as she was an adult. It’s so frustrating sometimes because I see she is mimicking me! As for the ADHD her teachers thought she should be tested turns out she had sleep Apnea. She was tired everyday and her behavior was out of control! The best thing I have seen that works is getting her involved with sports, setting up “social dates or sleep overs”, having her meet with her school counselor every week, and we are starting family counseling as well. I hope this helps!

  • Laura
    Aug 29, 2019

    Im thinking same thing for my daughter