Anonymous

Advice for making friends as an adult?

Over the years I’ve lost contact with essentially all friends, as has my husband. I’d love to make some friends, but it’s really hard because it seems everyone already has a social circle. We have done a couple play dates but when I’ve suggested just the parents go to dinner they’re never available. Any tips on how to make friends as an adult? My husband doesn’t drink so bar scenes are out, and there aren’t many parents in my neighborhood. Thanks!

  • Crystal
    Nov 09

    I'm in Chicago as well. Moved from Los Angeles and having a hard time making friends. We have my Husband's friends but none of them have children and they're mostly work friends.

  • Carmine
    Nov 09

    Try joining an exercise group or taking a class in something you're curious in knowing more about. You'll find people who are interested in the same things you are. You'll already have one thing in common with these people and with a little time will discover other commonalities.

  • WombatStew66
    Nov 10

    Once your kid starts nursery school you will be surprised how many new friendships you will encounter. It's great for me at my daughter's school it's a co-op so we work in the classroom together as well as I make time to connect with some parents I'd like to know better by going out for drinks, spa dates and playdates, then again I'm and extrovert. Sometimes it's great to call each other and vent about our 4 year olds as we are all not alone with the toddler shenanigans. I'm Takoma Park MD, a bit of a cruchy hippie like town. It's awesome finding like minded people here, even at the Farmer's market on the weekends.

  • flieskarina
    Nov 10

    I hear you, we also don't have friends...Those social circle are hard to break...that's weird how they are never available for dinners...I agree with the pointers things because the stuff we have tried did not work...my suggestion is that if he doesn't drink and his good with going to a bar still try it out, I went twice to the same bar back in September and had water only and no one was bother by my choice, so still give it a shot...

  • flieskarina
    Nov 10

    Tina from Long Island, my husband found that app and tried but it was a complete fail for me, not even a single my wrote back...

  • flieskarina
    Nov 10

    Wesley, we have gone to libraries to the kids interact, so from there I talk to the children parents we exchange conversation and ends there...We live in Las Vegas, NV we also do meetup.com in our previous city it was working for us but not here not even a single event so far...We go to church but it doesn't past from church activities...

  • Marinka
    Nov 10

    Sami, we live in Fairless Hills PA

  • Ms. Independent
    Nov 11

    #truth

  • Ms. Independent
    Nov 11

    I moved from BK to Riverdale BX. I hope to make new friends soon.

  • Suz
    Nov 11

    There is a moms group in my town- my pediatrician put me in touch with them. They run weekly events and have book clubs. I also started a moms night out thing with other moms in my son’s daycare. Mostly I meet new people through being a mom and finding other moms with things in common (I am a SAHM/WAHM so no office to make friends / socialize )

  • Lisa
    Nov 11

    This post has been viewed over 4,000 times! That says a lot.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 11

    Yes, Lisa! It does say a lot!

  • Carli
    Nov 12

    I have the same challenge. I'm a new mom (5 weeks) and I am looking for moms and couples to make friends with. My husband and I are having difficulty finding friends and balancing new parent life. We are in Cleveland, Ohio. I love the idea of a mom's group!

  • Lena
    Nov 12

    I think many of us can identify with this situation. I have just learned to keep to myself and found activities for baby and me when I go out. It is sad when I think about it for lack of socializing but at least he enjoys the interactions we exchange.

  • Amy
    Dec 11

    It's so hard! I've finally started making some friends after we moved - there are lots of better options for moms trying to meet up, and schedule play dates, than for singles and young married people that don't involve the bar scene! There's probably a MOPS group near you - moms of babies and preschoolers - that's goal is socializing/fun (crafts, discussions, etc) for moms while the kids have fun playing. And then once you know some other moms, you can have their family over (weekend brunch or BBQ) and then the guys can get to know each other too.

  • Amy
    Dec 11

    Mops.org lets you search your area for a nearby group!