Anonymous

Advice for making friends as an adult?

Over the years I’ve lost contact with essentially all friends, as has my husband. I’d love to make some friends, but it’s really hard because it seems everyone already has a social circle. We have done a couple play dates but when I’ve suggested just the parents go to dinner they’re never available. Any tips on how to make friends as an adult? My husband doesn’t drink so bar scenes are out, and there aren’t many parents in my neighborhood. Thanks!

  • Seth
    Nov 09

    I'm a divorced Dad with two kids - and it's really really hard to find the ways to make new friends with other parents and people. It's kinda strange since (as this post shows) almost EVERYONE struggles with this but yet there's not much out there that is obvious to do about it. So let's all just keep on reaching out I guess!

  • Kelly
    Nov 09

    I used the Bumble app- They have a friend mode specifically for finding friends. I met a few of my closest friends through that app and highly recommend it!

  • Jennifer
    Nov 09

    Anyone in the San Gabriel, California area. I would love to make some new friends too! I love lost all my friends after having kids and moving.

  • Lindsay
    Nov 09

    How old are your children? We just moved to westmoreland and are in the same boat of trying to meet people.

  • Crystal
    Nov 09

    I'm in Chicago as well. Moved from Los Angeles and having a hard time making friends. We have my Husband's friends but none of them have children and they're mostly work friends.

  • Becca
    Nov 09

    If you go to church, life groups (or small groups) are great ways to make friends. Mine has a women’s group with mostly moms in 20s-30s and it has seriously saved my sanity! There’s also a couple apps for finding mom friends... one is called peanut which is just for making mom friends and one is called meet up which has tons of different hobby groups and play dates and such as well :)

  • Carmine
    Nov 09

    Try joining an exercise group or taking a class in something you're curious in knowing more about. You'll find people who are interested in the same things you are. You'll already have one thing in common with these people and with a little time will discover other commonalities.

  • WombatStew66
    Nov 10

    Once your kid starts nursery school you will be surprised how many new friendships you will encounter. It's great for me at my daughter's school it's a co-op so we work in the classroom together as well as I make time to connect with some parents I'd like to know better by going out for drinks, spa dates and playdates, then again I'm and extrovert. Sometimes it's great to call each other and vent about our 4 year olds as we are all not alone with the toddler shenanigans. I'm Takoma Park MD, a bit of a cruchy hippie like town. It's awesome finding like minded people here, even at the Farmer's market on the weekends.

  • flieskarina
    Nov 10

    I hear you, we also don't have friends...Those social circle are hard to break...that's weird how they are never available for dinners...I agree with the pointers things because the stuff we have tried did not work...my suggestion is that if he doesn't drink and his good with going to a bar still try it out, I went twice to the same bar back in September and had water only and no one was bother by my choice, so still give it a shot...

  • flieskarina
    Nov 10

    Tina from Long Island, my husband found that app and tried but it was a complete fail for me, not even a single my wrote back...

  • flieskarina
    Nov 10

    Wesley, we have gone to libraries to the kids interact, so from there I talk to the children parents we exchange conversation and ends there...We live in Las Vegas, NV we also do meetup.com in our previous city it was working for us but not here not even a single event so far...We go to church but it doesn't past from church activities...

  • Marinka
    Nov 10

    Sami, we live in Fairless Hills PA

  • Ms. Independent
    Nov 11

    #truth

  • Ms. Independent
    Nov 11

    I moved from BK to Riverdale BX. I hope to make new friends soon.

  • Suz
    Nov 11

    There is a moms group in my town- my pediatrician put me in touch with them. They run weekly events and have book clubs. I also started a moms night out thing with other moms in my son’s daycare. Mostly I meet new people through being a mom and finding other moms with things in common (I am a SAHM/WAHM so no office to make friends / socialize )

  • Lisa
    Nov 11

    This post has been viewed over 4,000 times! That says a lot.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 11

    Yes, Lisa! It does say a lot!

  • Carli
    Nov 12

    I have the same challenge. I'm a new mom (5 weeks) and I am looking for moms and couples to make friends with. My husband and I are having difficulty finding friends and balancing new parent life. We are in Cleveland, Ohio. I love the idea of a mom's group!

  • Lena
    Nov 12

    I think many of us can identify with this situation. I have just learned to keep to myself and found activities for baby and me when I go out. It is sad when I think about it for lack of socializing but at least he enjoys the interactions we exchange.

  • Catie
    Friday

    So hard to find new mom friends! I never know how to get other mom’s information when I meet them at the park or other kid friendly places. I’ve found some success by joining local mom groups on Facebook and then I recently joined peanut. It’s like a dating app that lets you find moms in your area, similar aged kids and similar interests. I’ve had more success with peanut. You can decide if you and the other mom have something in common and then wave at them. If they feel the same, they can wave back and you make a connection. After the connection, it’s a little easier to talk with them because you both felt you guys have something in common. Mom friends is probably the most desired thing yet poses to be the hardest thing! We can be friends!! Here’s my friend link on Peanut. https://peanut.app.link/tuz0AROyRR