Advice for myself.

So I’m basically gonna be brutally honest here. I don’t have friends at all and I spend all my time with my babygirl unless I am working. I was thinking should I go out there and make friends or should I just stay the way I am?????????? I mean I am very selfish when it comes to my daughter and I don’t ask for ppl to take care of her when is not needed. I literally take her everywhere with me like to the salon and to do our nails.

  • May
    Oct 11

    Girl go out, make friends. The older ur daughter gets and more independent the more u’ll wish u did. Your profile says 22 (I’m 22 as well) we’re young. I lost friends since I had my son n I’m forever grateful for the one mom friend I have. It’s nice to have someone to talk to

  • Yazmina
    Oct 11

    Is not healthy to stay home all the time . I been doing it for like 3-4 years and I’m going crazy but I do have friends . Not a lot tho

  • Emily
    Oct 11

    Girla you are right. Is that I’m in the same boat I lost a lot of friends once I got pregnant with her.

  • Heidi
    Oct 11

    Go out and make some friends! I work, go to school, and I have an 18 month old son! Without the few close friends I have I’d go batshit crazy! You need some girl time alone! It’s definitely important

  • Tiffany
    Oct 11

    Yeah me too, I don't have many close friends either. A lot of it has to do with a transition I went through, I wasn't just hormonal from being a new mom, but I moved, and I was broke, and I'm a single mom - rarely have a sitter I trust. So I'm kinda extra protective. I think it necessary to "find your tribe" or build the village bc y'all both need it! Lol and I wish I could take my LO to the salon with me. She's a little too curious for that! 😁

  • Emily
    Oct 11

    Lol. Well I’m most deff gonna try but I really don’t know how because I’m just not a people person anymore like I just keep to myself but you are all right. I think I need to go out and be a little free butterfly lmao

  • Tiffany
    Oct 11

    Lol flap your wings girl!

  • Emily
    Oct 11

    I will try 🤣

  • JJ
    Oct 11

    I don’t have friends and don’t go out and I’m ok with it. I work a lot and then come home to my family. I’d rather spend time with them than anyone else anyway. No one watches my kids but their dad and I and my mom if she happens to make the 14 hour drive. I don’t use “it takes a village” philosophy myself, because so far it’s just been us and it works for us.

  • Amanda
    Oct 11

    Best way to make new friends is to join a fitness class. People tend to be more positive. I have made the majority of my post college friends in fitness classes over the years:)

  • Cathy
    Oct 11

    I am the same way. And when I make plans I always feel guilty that I’m missing out on time with my son. I recently bought a ticket for an event (that I’m going to by MYSELF). Now I am forced to go and - if I make new friends there, great and if not, I know I still will have a good time!

  • Emily
    Oct 11

    Omg mee too I feel so guilty also

  • Emily
    Oct 11

    Like even when I go to the store alone I’m rushing to go back home

  • Heidi
    Oct 11

    Mom guilt is a real thing!! It’s tough but being able to feel like yourself again feels great!

  • Amanda
    Thursday

    Take a workout class with your baby. That way you do something fun for you and baby gets to come with. It will be a fun way to connect with other parents and be fun for your babe

  • me
    Friday

    Girls that all sounds great. Now a bite into the reality apple. I am poor. I work from home and I work all the time. My politics keeps me away from even the people at Church. And this hurts. Too poor to go away, don't drink alcohol and a Democrat. No body wants anything to do. We you start to talk about rent control (my husband and I rent) they get mad and say it will effect them negatively. Good luck as you get older.

  • XOXOtheStones
    Saturday

    A support group is critical. Do yourself a favor and join a mom group/s, you’ll be thankful you did. Also, there are SO MANY mom groups, the right one for you will make all the difference. Good luck, mama.

  • Ricardo
    Sunday

    Girl! Go out, I give mommy, mommy breaks when she's a stay at home mom and takes care of my gmomey daughter. It's good to take breaks, enjoy yourself and well. Live your life too! ❤

  • Twinki
    Monday

    I feel like any time I spend outside of out of work, school or my kids... my husband makes up crazy stories of why I’m not at home. I never gave him reason not to believe me. It’s his past that he is so untrustworthy. I have a zero social life. Not even social media social life. Ikr?! I tried a girls night at our last duty station but that was a fail. I work full time, go to school full time & am a full time mother/wife (we’ll try to be). I don’t cook dinner nearly as much as I used to before I started back school after my husband retired from the Army last year.