Always tired

In the last two weeks I’ve had 3 people tell me I look tired. I generally am a little tired, chasing after a 2.5 year old boy all day. But what is with people? It’s just not a nice thing to say. Do you have any tricks, products or tips for making yourself look less tired? My husband says I look beautiful. Love him.

  • Diana
    Aug 04, 2019

    Haha - I own it: when someone tells me that, I whip out my phone and start showing them pictures of the reason I’m tired. Everyone I see on a regular basis has stopped either to avoid hearing about my child, or changed their comment from “you look tired” to “what’s your child up to now?”

  • Cherise
    Aug 06, 2019

    Ha ha, we ARE tired! But it is rude of people to point it out. Whatever you end up doing, do it for yourself and not for them! That said, I actually have found a few make up tricks that helped me a ton. First, I experimented with several brands before I found a creamy under eye concealer that doesn’t settle into my fine lines, and I use my ring finger to pat it gently in the inner corners of my eyes and just underneath where it gets purple. Another trick is to use a nude eyeliner to line the lower waterline. Also, I started curling my eyelashes and that makes eyes look more awake. Most of all, I think laughing at life helps because a smile lifts our faces AND our spirits. Hang in there, mama! This is just a season.💕

  • Rachel
    Aug 08, 2019

    I hate this and my response the past couple of times has been to point out something about the person saying it like they look a little bloated or sunburned....all of a sudden they get why its rude

  • MJS
    Aug 08, 2019

    Yes, this happened to me at work all the time in the first two years. I usually reply thanks, so do you. This one guy I saw on my commute on a train at 7 am would say that to me all the time, he knew I had a new baby. Same thing if people say I look like I’ve lost weight, I always say “yeah you too.” Once this woman said to us at the park, it looks like your son hasn’t grown since I saw him last year (he is 2) and I was like yeah- neither did yours. Do people think!??

  • Caroline
    Aug 08, 2019

    Happened to us a lot right after our baby was born earlier this year (including our pediatrician who would say “oh, you look tired!” And then she’d chuckle... my baby and I were both in intensive care for a week after he was born due to the complications we both had). At first I was brutally honest and said “whelp, we just got out of the ICU, so I think we’re doing great, all things considered.” It shut people up real fast. 6 months later, I have more of a filter, and as Cherise mentioned, a little makeup, tinted moisturizer with a setting powder works great. Also, dry shampoo, even if I’m putting my hair up, because it helps things look a little more polished. I often do a simple, low side bun in my hair and it helps look a little more intentional than a standard ponytail. Hang in there! Love MJS’s response; in today’s world, EVERYONE is tired. The ones commenting on how tired other look probably aren’t in the throes of raising a young child.

  • annag
    Aug 09, 2019

    Miss Manners (Judith Martin) said, in some column, that it's more useful to ask what we can do to help someone than to call them tired. Maybe start a new trend?

  • Yanis
    Aug 10, 2019

    Seriously. I tell them I AM TIRED. How else am I supposed to look?