Posted in In-Laws, Safety

Am I overreacting

I get very bad anxiety when my in-laws watch the baby (they are in their 70’s). Despite the wAy that I feel I let them watch the baby (10 months old) anyway, and before I left the house I forgot to turn the stove off. During the 2 hours that I wAs gone no one noticed not even my husband. It wasn’t on high and nothing was really on it except the very edge of the pan, and the chicken got burnt and was super dry. Now I was at fault for leaving it on low, but I feel as if they should be aware of their surroundings with the baby and should have noticed. Should I bring it up or just leave it alone???? I’ve been having problems with them before just with common sense and I really cry every time I leave the baby with them. Please help me!!!!

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jul 30

    Maybe all their attention was focused on the baby instead of appliances. And that’s a good thing!! I would give them the benefit of the doubt but if you must bring it up, I’d suggest make it light hearted and almost self deprecating like “you guys will have to look out for stove fires now apparently when you’re here because I keep leaving it on when I go out, hahaha!”

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jul 30

    And definitely keep your outings at 2hrs max if you’re really upset about leaving them w baby. That’s about enough time for most older grandparents and babies anyway.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 31

    Overreacting because you can be equally blamed. Ex : " Shouldnt you be more careful with turning off appliances? A fire could have started and your child could have gotten severely injured or worse". Not sure anybody would turn it on you but, just in case. Nobody was hurt. Saying something will lead to an unnecessary fight.

  • anonymous mom
    Aug 08

    I get being anxious about leaving your child with your in laws. My daughter will never be alone with mine and I don’t care how many feelings I hurt. Having said that, you cannot blame them for this. You missed it yourself and it is scary but it happens. Just try to be more careful in the future.