Am I the only mom who is still tired and exhausted all the time 3 years later after giving birth!

I have a 3 year old and I have been exhausted since the moment I gave birth. I'm always tired and sleepy. When time permits it on my days off from work I will sleep 9-10 hours through the night but even then I feel exhausted. Does this feeling of exhaustion ever go away and when?

  • Heather
    Apr 17

    I go through the SAME exact thing! B12 shots are amazing!!!!

  • Deb
    Apr 18

    Omg...I thought it was just me because I work with 20, 5 year olds. 😱My 19.5 mos old son sleeps great, but a lot of the times it’s my fault, because after he goes to bed, I like to stay up and play games on my phone, and do other relaxing things. When I went to my primary dr., in December, she didn’t think anything was wrong. I have an appointment with my gynecologist in June & I’ll mention the above to her. I also lately have had stomach issues and I’m not sure what that’s about. It could be my body changing as I might be close to menopause?!

  • Kristina
    Apr 18

    I had the same issue, i ended needing naps everyday and had trouble driving and always felt like my eye lids were dropping. It turns out I had sleep apnea and after I did a sleep study and got approved for a machine I’ve been feeling MUCH better!

  • Liz
    Apr 18

    I have a 2 year old and feel the same way. Ask your dr about a sleep study. If you struggle with depression, that could also be a culprit. Otherwise, I think it’s part of being a mom and all the thinking and doing we do on a daily basis to run our households!

  • Sarah
    Apr 18

    I agree with the others - go get blood work. My immediate thought was thyroid issues or iron deficiency. I struggled with this too and ended up having a sleep study done which found I have hypersomnia, a sleeping disorder that makes you tired no matter how much sleep you get. I now take medicine that has changed my life! So it’s definitely worth checking into your sleepiness!

  • Christina
    Apr 18

    If its not a hormone thing, I would try exercising regularly. Its hard, but I felt super tired all the time. Then I carved out 1 hour a day 3 days per week to workout and after a week I started to feel much better.

  • Patrick
    Apr 18

    A diet to high in carbs can cause chronic fatigue. Not saying go Keto or anything but a better balance of fat protein n carbs can do wonders for energy. Also attempting to go to sleep at the same time everyday and getting at least 6-7 hours a night is a better plan than trying to catch up on weekends. All easier said than done. Best of luck to you. I’m a dad with a 4 and 6 yo and I’m in the struggle with you.

  • Tara
    Apr 18

    I was always tired before baby and am still tired a lot now after baby but I have treatment now. We found out I have Narcolepsy. You should get a sleep study just in case.

  • Elizabeth Bolle
    Apr 18

    Have your iron levels checked. Mak sure they check your ferritin too.

  • Afreen
    Apr 18

    Yes! I’m in the same boat. I’ve a 3.5 year old and a 14 month old and I’m a stay at home mom. I adore my children but they drive me nuts! Plus my 14 month old doesn’t sleep through the night yet - so I’ve got that problem to address too. Ugh. I went to the doc’s office and broke down. She ordered a bunch of tests and everything came back normal for me. So now I’m just supposed to do some stress relief classes and hope for the best. Maybe you should try a bit of me-time, or a girls night or spa day? I know that in the end you have to get back to being tired all over again, but those couple of hours really help.

  • Lexi
    Apr 18

    Second what pretty much everyone above said. I had a laparotomy a few years ago and was just as tired 6 weeks after the surgery as I was the day after. They ran my bloodwork and turns out I have hypothyroidism. I still get whooped after a long day with a 2 and 4 year old, but it's more manageable with my medication. Naps during nap time also help

  • Angie
    Apr 18

    Not alone at all. Ive been going to get tests to see if all is well and they return back just fine. Have all those things above checked. Otherwise its the exhaustion of being a mom....especially to a child under 6.

  • annag
    Apr 18

    please check in with other parents in person, such as at the library or daycare or wherever you go for multi-kid or parent-kid playtime, about whether your level of tiredness is beyond typical. Yes, being a parent, especially a working parent, can be exhausting by itself, but there may also be something medical you can do.

  • Billy
    Apr 18

    I have sleep apnea and using a CPAP helped me a lot (but getting enough hours of sleep is still required). If you think you show symptoms (google it), you may want to see a sleep specialist.

  • Teddy
    Apr 20

    Two things I wanted to note: First: everybody is right about motherhood just being F-big exhausting no matter how much sleep you’re getting. Second : Get that blood work done ASAP. It is super common for you to have some vitamin deficiencies or maybe anemia. Sleep can’t cure any of that. Somebody else mentioned it, but you need to request that they check your ferritin levels when they do your tests, cause it isn’t in a basic panel. You can look up why it matters if you find out your levels are low (my body doesn’t make it, and we also just found out that my youngest child doesn’t produce it either.) Last: I don’t want to frighten you with this info, but I just want to say it so you can remind yourself that YOU KNOW YOUR BODY, and it’s hard to know with baby-making and hormone changes and life changes what your “normal” is sometimes, but when you get to a point where you are saying daily “this doesn’t feel right” and “I can’t live with this” then you need to advocate for yourself. It’s easy to be dismissed by Drs and it’s easy to dismiss yourself when they do, since they’re the supposed experts. But they’re experts in disorders, they aren’t experts in YOU, only YOU know YOU. That being said, after I had my second baby I had severe PPD. I was exhausted all the time. Yeah my blood tests showed anemia, and some nutritional deficiencies, but those were expected cause I was depressed and not taking good care of myself. But... then it got worse. extreme fatigue, loss of coordination, and some other random things. I got passed around from specialist to specialist and told by everyone that it was in my head, that having 2 kids is stressful, that I needed to ask for help more, that I needed a break, yadda yadda. I gave up after a bit. It took me going back and advocating for myself to finally see a rheumatologist and I was diagnosed with multiple autoimmune disorders. My body had gotten so stressed with the second baby that it had surfaced then, and most of the symptoms were being masked and dismissed as “post partum stress.” It starts to take a toll on you when you’re told over and over that they can’t find anything wrong. You think it’s in your head too. And you know what? Maybe it is a psychological issue. But even that needs attention. Again, you know you. Keep pushing until you get what you need.

  • Liz
    Jul 25

    I would get tested for narcolepsy. Falling asleep suddenly is only one of the symptoms- constant sleepiness regardless of how much sleep you get is another. It is an autoimmune disorder triggered by certain strains of the flu- so you don’t have to have had it growing up if you only recently came into contact with a trigger. What you wrote sounds like me all through high school and college. I was exposed to the “right” version of the flu at 16. It’s rare - only about 50k people in the US - so it’s not the first thing they test for but if it’s whats going on then treatment can totally help!