Any suggestions or tips I should be aware of?

Going to be a dad for first time. Due date April 2019! Nervous & excited at the same time...any suggestions or tips are welcomed! Dads out there!

  • Tristan
    Sep 11, 2018

    Plan ahead, but don’t over plan. (I know, vague.) Virtually all of what you planned for and expected will change, so be flexible. And don’t mount anything to the walls just yet, so to speak. Over the past 4 years, we have changed up so much of what we originally planned. And so much of the stuff we got in the first few months was hardly used. Take care of the big necessary things, and don’t sweat the small things. Get those as you need them. Piling them up now will only clutter the place up and, again, you likely will not use most of it. My son is very tall, but still, we went through 3 cribs, 5 car seats, 4 strollers, 2 washing stations, his sleeping area has moved 3 times, and I lost count of how many bottles and other eating utensils we tried. Thankfully much of it was hand-me-downs (your infant doesn’t care about new things, just as long as they are clean.) Best thing we ever did was to hunker down, alone, just us with no family, for the first 10 days. Friends and family want to come right over and “help”, but it’s not helpful during that time. It’s chaos. You are trying to figure it out and get your groove, and all these people keep coming in and messing it up. 10 days, get your groove, then invite them over when you are BOTH ready. And ask your partner “what sort of dad should I be?” Ask “what sort of partner should I be?” Ask “how can I help?” Virtually no one asks these questions, and you may be surprised by the answers. But nonetheless, you will get something back that will help guide you to be a great partner and dad and friend. And pay attention. Your child will tell you so much, in so many ways, if you just make time to see it.

  • Christian
    Sep 12, 2018

    Thank you so much Tristan for the advice!

  • Stay-At-Home Dan
    Sep 12, 2018

    I completely agree with Tristan. Also enjoy the transition into becoming a Dad. The new born stage flies by so fast. Don’t sweat the small things. And as Tristan stated: communication with your partner is vital. Congratulations to you and your family.

  • Christian
    Sep 12, 2018

    Thank you Dan!

  • Damon
    Sep 15, 2018

    To add to Tristan, in the beginning, think of yourself as the unsung hero, the man behind the curtain. You will be so tired, but so will she and she will be beat up. You be the badguy she can't be with friends and family. Don't put the added stress during her recovery time of having guests, but also don't make her the one who says NO. You answer the phone and the door, turn people away. Your job is to bond with your child, and protect momma. Don't sleep through feedings, don't miss any of them. If she's nursing, you prep baby, bring the baby, burp the baby, clean up the baby... Get in that routine.

  • Andrew
    Sep 18, 2018

    I stayed home for a month after my daughter was born. My wife and I decided to take shifts. My wife and I slept at different times. This worked for us because we both weren’t exhausted at the same time. When the other was reaching exhaustion the other was rested and refreshed. My wife and I also planned time for us to spend time together bonding each day. YMMV. A lesson I learned was to enjoy each stage of their lives. It changes so quickly and instead of looking ahead to the next stage, I enjoyed the present one. In general, everyone learns to be potty trained, why sweat when, if, etc. I enjoyed changing diapers when it was a necessity, now it’s not.

  • Jessica
    Sep 20, 2018

    I know u asked for dad's but mom here- don't but a lot of newborn stuff unless they tell you during ultrasound ur baby is small and most people buy newborn for baby showers. Diapers - ignore everyone no two babies are the same I have been blessed with 2 kids and no allergies but some kids are allergist to Pampers/ Huggies mine wear Aldi's and parents choice (it works lol) Don't buy every teether and toy on the market they can't play with them until they are like 3-4 months anyway and by then they are happier flinging a piece of paper up and down than anything. Support ur s.o! Attempt to share baby duties establish a schedule or a am/PM shift before if possible mine works nights I work days so it just worked out that way. Enjoy ALL of it! The poop (it's not so bad just wait it gets worse and then better ) the tiny screams (they find out they have lungs eventually) the napping a lot! The cuddles! Good luck man!

  • Bells
    Sep 21, 2018

    I know you asked for dads, but coming from a mom, there are many things I wish my husband had been told. Help your partner, feed her if she wants to eat while breastfeeding, let her get sleep. I went through post partum depression, half the time didn't get to eat because I had to hold my daughter for breastfeeding, and only got maybe 2-3 hours of broken up sleep a day. This would have been useful. Also, stay patient, ask for help if you need it, and dirty diapers aren't all that bad. :)

  • Christian
    Sep 21, 2018

    Thank you! Great advice

  • Caleb
    Sep 21, 2018

    Hi I’m a new dad with a 1 month old, all these people have great advice, for me I realized my wife and I have different parenting styles, and that can create some tension, so I have to keep that in mind and sometimes take a step back and try to see things from her perspective, and don’t sweat the small stuff! Lastly if you have chest hair shave it or wear a shirt when holding your baby, they will grab a handful and not let go! 😉 best of luck!

  • Christian
    Sep 21, 2018

    Hahaha thanks Caleb! Will keep it in mind.

  • Dave
    Sep 28, 2018

    I quit drinking at year two. Best decision I ever made.

  • Christian
    Sep 28, 2018

    @Dave, Congrats!

  • Josh
    Oct 01, 2018

    New dad to a wonderful 5 day old girl. Here are some pro dad tips I’ve learned very quickly: 1. Make sure you get plenty of sleep during the actual labor. Once that baby comes out you and your partner will be handled your little one on the very same day/ night 2. Zip up onesies and Velcro swaddles are life savers. The Halo swaddle is expensive but worth every penny when you’re running on 1 hour of sleep and need to change a diaper every 2 hours in the middle of the night 3. Get ready to sing! I learned that I can make anything a song and my daughter loves it. Soothes her and calms her down. Put in some good dance moves (gentle bouncing) and you’ll be in good shape for those long nights

  • Christian
    Oct 01, 2018

    Thanks Josh! Congrats by the way!

  • Andrew
    Dec 04, 2018

    Sleep when they sleep, be patient-things will change significantly but go with it with an open mind. Find time with you and your spouse/significant other to reconnect. Embrace the suck, sometimes it wont seem as glorious as its supposes to. Just weather the storm, it gets better!

  • Christian
    Dec 04, 2018

    Thanks Andrew good advice!