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Anyone have any luck getting Sole and legal custody


My daughter has been living with me for 6 years. Her dad comes in and out ever 6 months or so. Last time he was away for over a year. He recently popped at her school because his mom threatened to kick him out the house. Now I’m finding out I have no control if he takes her or not. I always thought I had sole custody because child support said he is the non custodial parent. He tells my daughter lies like I got him arrested and I’m he reason he can’t find a job. That I do things to make him look bad. He attacked me at work and got charged with simple assault. no jail time just anger management and told to stay away from me

  • Anonymous
    Dec 12, 2018

    Sounds like you need to get a lawyer and a custody agreement. Seems like you’ll get custody to me, but make it official.

  • Teena
    Dec 13, 2018

    You absolutely need a lawyer, but do your own research on your state laws on the requirements to terminate parental rights. Most states will not allow this unless there is another person/parent willing to step in and adopt. Your situation sounds almost the same as what I went through for years with my oldest and I finally was able to terminate his rights on the grounds of abandonment.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 27, 2018

    This a mistake a lot of people make in assuming they have more rights over the child than the other parent. Child support is a separate issue than custody or visitation. While you can file for sole custody on your own having a lawyer will help because they know your states laws. Also if you can prove the dad has been in and out of her life. My nieces mom disappeared when she was 22 months old left her with my Brother in law. According to their divorce she was supposed to have most of the custody so when he took her back in to revise the parenting plan she didn’t show up. He hadn’t heard from her in almost a year and had no way to contact her. The judge automatically gave him full legal custody and her visitation rights where when he said where he said and for how long. My niece is now 10 and her dad has had full custody of her for 8 years. He didn’t use a lawyer it just helps.