Anonymous

Anyone not love the town they live in?

Have been living in the PA burbs for 2 years, moved from another state and really miss my hometown and small town life. The township I live in has great schools for my kids and my spouse is only a few mins to his office, but this just doesn’t feel like home and we can’t really walk anywhere, its more like developments. I keep complaining that I want to move back, but the commute would be 70-90 mins for him. I feel bad, but no matter how hard I try I just can’t get used to this area. Any tips or can anyone relate? I’m also further from my family and friends now, which is hard when you have kids and your spouse is always working. And I have made a group of friends and try to keep busy, but it’s just not the same.

  • Raji
    Feb 25

    Can totally relate. We are also away from any family and friends. I’m pretty much hating the area we are in and looking to move with his new job. We would still be away from family or friends but somewhere more accessible to parks and shops. I like the idea of my husband being near his job so he doesn’t have to spend time on the commute and can spend more time with daughter. I had to just get with the idea that family is where husband and kids are otherwise it’s pretty miserable; husband was in military. Maybe move to an area where things are more accessible walking distance but still closer to husband’s job. It sucks that we can’t have everything.

  • Anonymous
    Feb 25

    I definitely can relate to that! My husband is military so we’re about 2,500 miles from home 😥 I try to make the best of it, just like you! But it’s true- there’s no place like home! Is there anywhere between the two cities where he could have more of a 45 min commute and put you closer to your friends/family? If not, I’d just focus on your life now. Go to the library and parks and you’ll start to see familiar faces around! Sorry- it’s definitely not easy!! My mom and sister live about 2 hours away and they meet foe dinner half way once a week, maybe a family member could do the same for you?

  • Anonymous
    Feb 25

    Thanks! Our issue is we are in PA and family/friends are in NJ, and technically we could meet in Philadelphia which would be halfway for both, but my family acts like that is a huge ordeal bc it’s the city. And the surrounding areas aren’t the safest areas to meet up. I feel bad because so many of my friends live thousands of miles from family, so I should feel lucky that they are within an hour-hour and a half. But I just never wanted to leave my hometown, I was happy there and loved everything about it. It was the quintessential small town with everything within walking distance! I guess I am just lucky to have lived there for as long as I did. And maybe we should look for a similar town within 30 mins of his work like you both said, possibly could do that in the next few years. But will try to be happy where we are for now. It just stinks when he works a lot til 9 pm, it’s like what is the point of us living far from everyone else. Ugh.

  • Elle
    Feb 25

    What is it about the hometown that you miss? - is it the walking around? Suggest buying in a slightly different area nearby with more easily accessible acctivities in walking distance. - is it that you havent really made close friends yet? Try reaching out to different groups, cast your net wider! 70-90 min commute is no way to live.

  • Danielle
    Aug 24

    I have the same issue and also in pa, are you in bucks ?

  • Anonymous
    Aug 24

    @amber in Lower Merion!