Posted in Siblings, Multiple Children

Anyone with more than one child? How do you give both the same attention?

I have a 6 year old and a 2 month old whom Is EBF. I try my hardest to give by 6yold the same attention but it’s hard. Because the baby needs a lot.

  • Lulu
    Sep 14, 2018

    I don't have 2 kids but I've read that you can involve the older child in your bfing by asking for help, like assigning them jobs such as get mommy water/ snack/ burp cloth or even get the diaper during diaper changes.

  • Lola
    Sep 14, 2018

    I have two very close in age so it might be different but including your 6yr old in any way possible when handling the 2month old is a great idea. Also, try to carve out separate time for your older one even if it’s 30 mins at a time. And keep one special thing that is just for you & the older child so you have bonding time alone. Hope this helps!

  • Zee
    Sep 15, 2018

    Have you tried getting the 6 year old involved in helping with the baby? Changing diapers, finding clothes for baby to wear, putting baby to bed..

  • Jaime
    Sep 15, 2018

    I have a 7 year old and a 1 year old and about to have our third. Honestly I just involved the older on with the younger one and made a date night with the older one once a week. You gotta think the older one has had just you for so many years...it gets easier believe me the first 3-4 months are rough but everyone adjusts eventually. I just explained to my older one that the little one needs more attention right now and asked her to help.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Sep 15, 2018

    I think the best two things are to 1) find ways to be with the older child while bfing. Read books, color, snuggle. I sat on the floor and did legos a lot using the boppy. 2) during at least one nap of baby’s naps each time play with the older child for like 15-20 minutes. It’s so hard because that’s the time to do chores. Or do chores that you can make fun and do with the 6 yr old.

  • Katrina
    Sep 15, 2018

    This depends greatly on your 6y, but something I've seen is having sibling wear baby in a carrier (be familiar with particular carrier and safety checks yourself beforehand) when baby is content. Baby gets positive attention from sibling plus bonding, and it gives you a chance to focus on your older child. If your 6y isn't interested, doesnt yet show ability to deal gently with newborn, or such, better not to start here. And if you're not a babywearing family I wouldn't recommend starting for this sole purpose.

  • Nandi
    Sep 15, 2018

    Zee yes she is involved in everything, but she is always “what about me” when I have to do something for Ava, like buy diapers or socks

  • Nandi
    Sep 15, 2018

    Yes my daughter runs to her and watch her while I shower, cook, clean etc. but she she still has her “what about me” or “you love Ava more” I have done everything you all have suggested. Which I do appreciate 😊

  • Jaime
    Sep 15, 2018

    My daughter did the same thing. They adjust I promise. Now she realizes their is more then JUST her. Keep hanging in their mama going from 1 to 2 was super hard at first but it gets easier :)

  • Nandi
    Sep 15, 2018

    My daughter is very affectionate and sensitive. She also thinks Ava don’t love her because she cry’s when she olds her. But I told her she does love her

  • Nandi
    Sep 15, 2018

    Thanks Jamie ❤️

  • Jenna
    Sep 16, 2018

    I have 1 yr old and 8 yr old and I feel same way. I feel bad. I try and do things when baby is sleeping with oldest. Or when dad home I try and take him places just him and i. I can tell he likes that. One of the reasons i debate on having more.

  • Nandi
    Sep 16, 2018

    Yeah no more for me Jenna, I wish I had someone to watch the baby and I can take my daughter out

  • Sarah
    Sep 16, 2018

    Let the 6 year old help with something’s and when the baby takes a nap spend time with the other

  • Stephanie
    Sep 16, 2018

    Find activities and crafts they can do together!