Posted in Marriage & Partnership, Time Management

Attempting to be Patient with my Husband

Anonymous

I’m a full time working mom of twins, my husband works full time too. Life is busy life is stressful. My husband is a great Dad. But he is not good with helping around the house. He works a 9-5 type job, he usually goes to the gym and doesn’t get home until 7:30ish pm. I do shift work, so I work 7-7 three days a week. The kids are with Grandma when we are both at work. The issue with my schedule is that I often get stuck with the shoveling, raking leaves, calling someone to fix the appliance that is broken ect ect. Not to mention I cook for the kids do laundry ect ect. I bathe the kids on the days I’m off. (He never does this) He will do things if I ask him to, sometimes it takes multiple askings. I am just frazzled. And I feel like I’m damaging our relationship by continuous nagging him about things ... but idk what else to do. Because I NEED help. Advice?

  • B
    Oct 29

    My husband and I sat down and made a list of all the things. Literally all the things. Then we each picked big jobs that are done regularly and took them. No nagging. Just ours to do. He chose dishes and I chose grocery shopping, for example. Then we swap other jobs depending who has time. But no nagging anymore, since we are both clear on what’s divided. It was a marriage saver.

  • B
    Oct 29

    We did it after I read a few articles about mom mental load, and shared that idea with him