Baby advice! (long post)
Hi all! I just wanted to share some of my experiences with having a baby. My daughter was born in December and is now 4 months old. She’s a very easygoing baby (which I am forever grateful for!). However, in the short time I’ve been a mom, I have gotten a LOT of advice. Both good and bad. I’ve been told to sleep when the baby sleeps, which is a great idea up to a point. You can’t be expected to sleep all the time, especially if you have other kids. There are also other responsibilities that come with having a child such as cleaning, making sure you yourself have something to eat, and other things you may have to do. My mother in law repeatedly made me feel bad about myself because instead of sleeping, I chose to spend the time my daughter slept cleaning, helping my husband with things and making food for us both. Yes, he helps out but there are certain things we did together. Also, telling new moms what they’re doing wrong/what they could be doing better isn’t helping, if anything it hurts hearing that other people don’t think you’re doing your best. If anything, all a new mommy wants to hear is ‘you’re doing great!’. Other advice I have gotten was to make sure we were ‘making noise’ while our daughter slept so she wouldn’t get used to the silence. Which yes, I understand, but at the same time the (many) people who told us that would come over while our daughter was sleeping and be as loud as possible. Now, I have been given some good advice. My daughter is bottle fed, so I was told to give her a “top-off” to help her sleep longer at night. And let me tell you, it was a great idea! When she was about 6 weeks old we started trying it, and it definitely made a difference!! After her last bottle at night (around 8-9pm) we would put her down to sleep and my husband and I would watch tv, do dishes, etc. Now when we went to bed at 11/12, we would make her a small bottle (about 2-3oz) and give it to her. It helped her sleep longer through the night and she would sleep until about 5am instead of waking up 3 times during the night! What advice have you been given? Both good and bad? I’d love to hear!