Anonymous

Baby shower for 2nd baby?

I just found out I am 10 weeks pregnant. For my first baby (who is currently 16 months), we had a huge baby shower with family and friends. But, for this baby, I don't think it’ll be right to have another baby shower. For one, we moved out of state & secondly, everyone always judges those who have baby showers back to back. I was thinking of only doing a registry if anyone wants to get baby #2 something. What do you think?

  • Christa
    Nov 28

    I think a registry is a safe bet! We did a baby shower for our first one too, and then I saved EVERYTHING from him for when we get pregnant with our second! But honestly it’s really up to you, there’s no reason why you can’t have a second shower, but it’s honestly what makes you feel the most comfortable!!!!

  • Anonymous
    Nov 28

    I gave away all of her stuff when we moved lol so all I have is her 12^ month clothing! But thank you, definitely doing a registry!

  • Christa
    Nov 28

    I’d go for the registry then, and start just picking things up you need along the way. Thrift stores are a great spot to find brand new stuff, and for cheap. And also check out Threadup.com they have all second hand stuff- but is in brand new condition, and for really super amazing prices and it ships to you! Which is really helpful with a baby already!!!!

  • Joanna
    Nov 28

    Registry... especially for those completion discounts at Target and Amazon!

  • Lisa
    Nov 29

    Have a baby Sprinkle

  • Myrtle
    Nov 29

    I think it’s totally OK to have a baby shower/sprinkle for your second baby can definitely do a registry so you get the things you want/need! If your friends/family judge you for it they aren’t really people you want to be surrounding yourself with anyways. Definitely had a much smaller shower for our second one, but I have also been to showers for baby number two that are large

  • Cathy
    Nov 29

    Do whatever you want Mama! You do you! Celebrate that little life!!!

  • Anonymous
    Nov 30

    Just setting up a registry isn't tacky at all. Even if you set it up to be private and only visible to you, it's totally worth it for the completion discount if you're planning on getting anything new that you didn't have before or restocking on certain things. And then if someone happens to ask, then you have something to direct them to. I'm pregnant with my 2nd baby and use Amazon's Baby Registry mostly as a personal shopping list. No one else can see it but me and a very few family members who asked about a million times for it.

  • Erin
    Dec 01

    I didn't have a shower for my second, but it was another boy and we are comfortable financially so it just really wasn't necessary. I think if you're having a different gender than your first or you could use more baby stuff and would have trouble buying it yourself then you should absolutely have a second shower. In fact you can have one for any reason at all! There is way too much mom-judging that goes on and I think everyone should chill a bit. If people that are invited don't want to go or think it's gratuitous to have multiple showers then hey, they don't have to go or get a gift! I am always on the lookout for tacky and I hate tacky things but I don't think repeat baby showers qualify. I actually think having multiple showers for your first pregnancy would be worse in that regard. I also think those articles posted above (I only read the first one) are rude, judgemental, and unhelpful.

  • Bethenia
    Dec 01

    It's not tacky or greedy, especially if you don't have anything for the baby. If you're really worried about it, you could just hold off until the baby comes and then have a party to welcome the baby that will allow everyone to meet the little one at the same time and they will probably want to come more because of that and may also get some things you need at the same time. You will get extra diapers and wipes, etc from the hospital to take home and you could just buy a few essential items beforehand. Other than that, just keep adding things you want/need to your Amazon/whatever store cart so that when the welcoming party is over, all you have to do is remove items you no longer need and checkout then it will be there in a few days. I know some people want to wait until a shower to see what they will get before they buy anything themselves, but with my first and only baby, I received most of my items in the form of hand-me-downs after the baby came anyway and then felt dumb for having already bought the same or similar items shortly before.

  • Valerie
    Dec 01

    This is why for our first child we only requested gender neutral clothing. A: to be able to reuse or regift the little clothes that they literally wear ONE time sometimes. And B because I do find it a little tacky to have another baby shower for every subsequent kid. To each their own. I’d bring a small gift to a second or third baby shower, but would pitch in more for the first one.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 01

    Thank you ladies! As I said in my previous comment, we moved to a different state so we gave away a lot of our little ones clothing and etc. I feel like every baby should be celebrated, whether tacky or not. Hubbs and I decided on just 2 kids so its not like we will have a baby shower for every kid. I wanted to do a registry just in case family members or friends would like to get something.