Anonymous

Baby’s name online

We will tell my mother in law to not post our baby’s full name online and she’ll listen ... for the time being. Then she does it again. I don’t know why she has to put her full name on Facebook but it’s really bothering me. Family knows her name so why does she have to always put it out there in every comment. I seriously wish she didn’t have a Facebook so I didn’t have to worry about my child’s privacy.

  • AdamAnt
    Jan 10

    We request the same courtesy. Any posts containing our kids’ names (first, middle, and / or last) are deleted. If anyone posts such, we contact them directly (private message, text, email) to ask they not do it again. Repeat offenders are usually unfriended or blocked from seeing our content. It’s a rather simple request - it astounds is when people won’t respect it.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 10

    It seems like a such a simple request AdamAnt. I don’t understand why it’s so hard for people to respect that request.

  • Christa
    Jan 10

    We are the same way! We ask that our child’s picture doesn’t go on social media at all. It drives me crazy when family and friends don’t listen. And we, like AdamAnt are the same way. We give them a couple chances, then don’t allow them to take photos of our children.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 11

    Funny but not funny, sometimes when I can’t remember someone’s child’s name I search through the pics on Facebook and I can always count On One of the grandmas to post the child’s name.

  • Vicki
    Jan 12

    Tell her she can’t see the baby for a month every time she does it. And follow through.

  • Tyler
    Jan 15

    Honestly I think there are better things to fret over.

  • Christa
    Jan 15

    Though I agree with Tyler in some perspectives, yes, there are much bigger things to worry about with how our children this day in age, I also believe and feel that the request to NOT have my child put on social media (full names, pictures, etc.) is also INCREDIBLY important. With what is happening this day in age with kids getting killed, kidnapped by association to parents due to grievances with each other, family members losing their minds and hurting and jeopardizing a child’s safety is no light matter. Yes- I know news blows EVERYTHING out of proportion on certain instances, but I also believe that, you are risking the safety of your child’s purity by allowing photos to be scattered around. A child is pure and innocent, when you allow photos and even names to be placed in the lime light of social media you are thereby allowing a child’s purity and soul to be at risk. I absolutely do NOT allow my child’s photo to be put on social Media. If it’s there, we ask it be taken down, and photos aren’t allowed to be taken of our child unless other wise permitted. There also is the issue of identity theft in this day in age which is a HUGE problem. We would like to remain with our heads in the sand that this isn’t an issue, but children- who have no credit to worry about actually are becoming the number one hit victims of identity theft. I don’t want to have to worry about that with my child and future children- and here’s another example- we have had family members (don’t ask why, because we don’t even know) whom have taken names of family members who DONT HAVE SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS, and have taken our names and created accounts using our names, to build a reputation for themselves. But this has actually come back and created issues for those of us who don’t have social media as we enter job forces, because of something stupid a family member did using OUR name. So yes, we have to worry about this. Ps. Sorry, this topic irritates me, and it’s important!

  • Tyler
    Jan 15

    I think social media leads us to believe kidnappings etc. are happening at a faster rate than other times in history. Multiple polls that I have seen show actual crime rates declining. I get the frustration and I don’t believe the child is in any more danger with or without it. I would be cautious not to react to something and strain a relationship with a loved one over something like that. I bet if you ignore the behavior she will stop quicker.