Posted in Grade Schoolers, Potty Training

bathroom accidents

my 7 yr old step daughter will not quit pooping in her panties. we have literally been trying everything and it doesnt seem to matter. even if we make her sit on the toilet until she goes she doesnt care and will sit there for hours just playing and not even trying. so beyond frustrated!

  • Scarlett
    Aug 01, 2018

    I am afraid she is going to start getting made fun of at school but I saw an article that said with some kids it basically becomes a power struggle and that parents may have to become uninterested and make them basically decide on their own to stop. Any thoughts on this tactic?

  • Anonymous
    Aug 01, 2018

    Have you taken her to the ped to make sure nothing is wrong that’s causing it?

  • Scarlett
    Aug 01, 2018

    Not yet but I read about something called encopresis tonight that she has pretty much all the symptoms of. It's apparently really rare though so I dunno.

  • Laura
    Aug 01, 2018

    My sister struggled with this when she was that age. She ended up being lactose intolerant.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 02, 2018

    My 8 yr old has had encopresis for 4 yrs, its very frustrating and we have found it to be difficult to treat. We started at GI to rule out medical reasons. It turned out to be emotional for him so we have been through rounds of therapy and it's very slowly getting better. For him it started as constipation from fear of the toilet which led to him withholding and stretching out his colon so he couldn't tell when he had to go. Now it's become about emotional control, ie when he gets stressed it happens more often. But I suggest you get some help early on or it can become really hard to treat. There is also a great book called The Ins and Outs of Poop by Dr Thomas Duhamel which helped us.

  • Scarlett
    Aug 02, 2018

    Ugh! Yeah I think it's a mental thing for her. She moved in with us about a year ago and was still in diapers. She always had pain from an constant rash and continuous UTIs. I finally had enough of being kicked when trying to clean her up and said no more diapers this is ridiculous. I don't know if she associates pooping with that pain or what but it is so frustrating.

  • Belinda
    Aug 02, 2018

    I am having the same problem with a three year old granddaughter she says she has to go P what tell me every time goes to the party doesn’t P on her pants all night long but will not poo she hides and acts like she is scared to death to go poop in the toilet so she eventually pooped in her pants

  • Nancy
    Aug 02, 2018

    Something is very wrong, be it emotional or otherwise. I believe it’s emotional. She’s much too old to behave this way. I would consult a physician ASAP. ❤️

  • Mia
    Aug 02, 2018

    I would bring her to her doc to rule out any medical issues. Then to a therapist to work on any emotional issues. Sounds like she is new to being with you full time and if it is nothing medical it could be the change or something from before she was with you (if she was still in diapers until a year ago and never had a doc check her out that is a red flag right there). Kids sometimes feel like they have no control over their lives that they use whatever they can to feel like they have something that they have control of - maybe this is hers.

  • Scarlett
    Aug 02, 2018

    Yeah i definitely thing it's something emotional over anything physical. Her brother is autistic and they haven't seen there mom who lives in California since she dropped them off with us almost a year ago so lots going on

  • Trisha
    Aug 14, 2018

    Sounds like she is looking for attention. At 7 she can use the bathroom and clean herself. If there is no medical issue, she needs to talk with a therapist.