Bed wetting with 7 year old

My daughter has recently turned 7 and has been up and down with bed wetting issues for several years. She’s currently in a pattern where she’s wetting the bed most nights to some extent. She’s had a history for her entire life with constipation and we’ve gone through treatments over the past few years and her doctor has stated that this can contribute to bed wetting. I’ve read the same. We make a very strong effort with addressing the constipation, which also ebbs and flows if we aren’t vigilant about it. When that’s better, she tends to not pee the bed as much. It’s a struggle nonetheless but I was hoping for feedback on how to handle the social aspect of it, like with sleepovers. She had a friend over last night and I made sure both used the potty before bed and to my knowledge she hadn’t had anything to drink before, but it looks like she peed again. She keeps it hidden but has expressed her frustration with it, at least when it happened on a scout trip overnight (“I’m such a baby...”). I try to stay supportive and try to encourage my hubby to do the same. The logical solution is address the constipation, no liquids an hour before bed, potty before bed, and possibly discreetly provide a pull-up for overnight sleepovers, right? We haven’t used pull-ups in years for her, and I’m not sure how she’ll handle it, but if we stay supportive, give her a bag to hide/dispose it in for the morning so her friends don’t find out, maybe that will help her through the inevitable continued slumber parties? Any other suggestions or has anyone else gone through this? When does it get better?

  • Morgan
    Nov 19, 2019

    I would schedule a appointment with a urologist

  • Diane
    Dec 14, 2019

    I think since constipation effects the bedwetting, that you should see a gastroenterologist first to determine how to keep the constipation under control on a daily basis and address ways to be "vigilent" consistently. From what you wrote, if she is not constipated, the bedwetting is less. Possibly, if you can keep her from being constipated for a longer period of time, her system and bladder will adjust and the bedwetting will stop. And certainly you can talk to her- she may prefer pullups to waking up in wet sheets. I think it's great that you are not frustrated or angry with her and you acknowledge her frustrations too. I think this may be more common than you know and maybe you can ask your doctor for resources or support groups about the social issues around constipation and bedwetting.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 13

    My 7 year old had day time potty problems and then nighttime bed wetting issues from 2-6ish and also has reoccurring UTIs which the doctor is saying is constipation related. While I don’t necessarily have a solution for you (or my own daughter), just know you’re not alone with older kid potty issues! I think you’re taking the best approach you can, which is to be supportive and not make a big deal about it. Hang in there!

  • Anonymous
    Jan 27

    Thanks for the thoughts and advice. We have gone to a gastro previously and she's been on a strict miralax/exlax regimen per the doctor, for what was encopresis. That issue is now in the past, after several years of vigilance. But it doesn't take much for her to fall back into constipation, with the end side effect being bedwetting. It's as easy as me working late for a few nights during the week, hubby handling the grind instead of me, and forgetting to make her drink the miralax and sit on the potty and try to poop. She's been a prune juice kid since 3 months old, so there's definitely something biological about it all. There were a lot of bedwetting accidents last week. We overall stay calm, try to stick to the program, encourage and enforce healthy eating the best we can, and supplement her. She wants a sleepover every weekend, and is a pretty social kid, but she's got a big hangup on spending the night elsewhere, instead of her house, bc of this issue. I've brought up the pullup, which she's not open to. I think i'm just venting at this point, bc we've been doing the right things. Just wondering if anyone else has gone through this, and what do they do.