Bio Mom issues.
I have an 11 yr old step daughter. Been apart of her life for two years. Recently she’s discovering her mom is not really interested in her personally, just in having occasional updates on her life and pictures to post to Facebook so she can pretend to be involved and a good mother. 11yr old for the most part feels pretty uninterested in her mom, and whines a lot about how ironic it is that every time she calls her mom, her moms phone is dying. Or how her son is sick. Although she brushes it off carelessly, I worry this is giving her more trouble then she lets on. Yet, she still calls her, sends her updates, sends her pictures and even gets excited to see her (if and when she does come.) It’s been over a year since then. But, holidays are coming. She’ll be trying soon. I’m worried that this is affecting her deeper then she lets on, and I don’t understand why she keeps going back. How do I comfort her, or make this vicious pattern stop? Should I even try to stop it? Not sure what to do, I hope I don’t sound like a terrible step mom, I haven’t done anything yet, but I’m getting more and more involved. She calls me mom. I’m getting more nervous about this. Please help!!