Boundaries with coparenting
My ex and I get along well, we are both engaged to new partners, we have a 6 year old that lives with me and stays with him one night a week. Our son just had surgery and has a 2 week recovery, so he won’t be able to go back and forth between houses. He is going to stay with me since he is mostly always here. His dad insists he should be able to come and spend time with him for a couple hours, him and his new fiance, but my fiance thinks that is crossing the line and that it would be awkward to have him in our house. I tend to agree, but at the same time the kid just had surgery and should also be able to see his dad. We think a happy medium would be for his dad to pick him up and go out to eat for a bit and come back. In a perfect world, I wish we would all be friends and get along, but there is an awkwardness, and although my ex and I do get along well, my fiance feels like there should be boundaries and that it’s not fair to be that close and he really doesn’t like my ex for a few reasons. I agree but then it’s also hard for me to say no. What would you do?