Posted in Behavior, Parenting Culture, Preschoolers

Boy likes dolls

My 4 1/2 yrs old son recently started taking interest in his 3 years old sister's dolls. He also wore his sister's dress once just for fun. It's all fun for him but it upsets his mom. I am curious to know whether it is a normal thing for boys growing up trying to explore new stuff such as playing with girls' things ?

  • Kala
    Nov 15, 2018

    Definitely normal I’d say. My daughter loves to play with cars and likes boy things. My friends son is 6 absolutely loves the color pink and he likes girly things too. I think they’re just curious nothing to worry about.

  • antigrav_kids
    Nov 15, 2018

    I think it's normal. The three kids here, aged 7, 6, and 3; girl, boy, and girl respectively, all went to the skate park two days ago as skater girls. 6 year-old No. 2 wore a pink tutu over his jeans. They all had a blast! Oh, and they've all had 'baby dolls' since they were one provided for them by my dad who also gave me one as a kid. They all gain and lose interest in them pretty cyclically.

  • B
    Nov 15, 2018

    Dolls are definitely for boys too.

  • Ivy
    Nov 15, 2018

    Yes, sounds very normal. Dolls are actually very neutral and healthy for children to learn with. And dresses are not only part of a female's wardrobe in other places around the world. I think it's when the ideas are pushed that it's not normal, is when kids start getting confused. I played with "boy" stuff all the time when I was little, like cars and wrenches, and preferred to not wear dresses. I was tough and rowdy. When I was told my choices and behavior were not normal for a girl, that's when I started exploring the idea that maybe I was a boy trapped in a girl's body, and went through a tiresome internal battle of confusion. Now that I'm older, I see the hurt and confusion society pushed onto me by trying to label me the way they labeled behaviors or objects, as if those traits or things have a gender. Your son doesn't see those things as being for only girls, and that's fine. Children's minds are innocent at that age and it's a good thing. Now that I have my own family and children, I see how innocent those years are and how damaging society can be when they don't allow boys or girls to play with things that they have labeled for only one group. I got my son a doll when I was pregnant with my second, and it helped him understand how to be gentle and caring. My husband and I are expecting a girl now, so our second son is playing with that same doll and taking care of it.

  • AdamAnt
    Nov 15, 2018

    Clothes are for all people. Toys are for all people. All colors are for all people. This should be true not only for our kids, but for us, too.

  • Marika
    Nov 15, 2018

    Normal! Just playing around. My son loves all my accessories and finds it pretty and wants to wear it. He puts on my dresses to pretend play mama and Papa's clothes as well equally.

  • Sajid
    Nov 15, 2018

    Thanks a lot Y'all. My wife read all the comments above and she is in a process of understanding it. We both really appreciate it.

  • Brianne
    Nov 15, 2018

    I thinks it's normal. Kids are just that, kids. If his sister plays with dolls he probably wants to do what she's doing. I read an article once that said little boys who play with dolls become amazing fathers. 😊

  • Bailey
    Nov 16, 2018

    It’s normal. Children don’t label things with gender. It’s a learned behavior.

  • Birdie
    Nov 17, 2018

    Yes it’s normal. My advise look up other cultures where men wearing “dresses” is very much a part of their culture. Hawaiian male hula dancers, East African Swahili speaking men wear the kanzu, Scottish kilt, etc.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 18, 2018

    Totally awesome. Also, when we as a group say “nothing to worry about” it could be construed as “don’t worry, your kid is still heterosexual and cisgender”. Even if your kid wasn’t straight or wasn’t cisgender, it still wouldn’t be something to worry about! ❤️🧡💛💚💙 (Coming from a trans family.)

  • Hoku
    Nov 19, 2018

    Totally normal. Nothing to worry about. Just don’t make a big deal and often boys will loose interest

  • Michelle
    Nov 25, 2018

    First question... would you like your son to be a father one day? Then let him learn how to hold a baby and feel comfortable learning parenting skills! Second question...what child doesn’t like playing dress up and pretending? All kids do! Let him feel comfortable to explore world in his own way! There is no girls and boys things to kids. These are society’s rule that families imprint onto children. Frankly, it’s a very old fashion and dull way to see the world. If he isn’t hurting anyone or himself then let him be.

  • riley
    Jan 11

    They are still developing and growing. Exposing young children to different toys is just fine. It's called gender nonconformity.

  • Samuel
    Jan 11

    It's fine, a toy is a toy, don't make it a taboo thing, that is when children get confused.